Wow.. i didn't realise that my blog had died..
Anyway, let me try to revive it again...
I promised to blog about "How to Pursue Happiness".
But i shall do it after this post, because its linked..
Anyway, like the title says, i'm gonna blog about the meaning of Life.
What is the meaning of life?
What is life's purpose?
What is the reason you're here for?
Some people believe that we're here just to exist.
To be born, to grow up, to study, to find a girlfriend or boyfriend or computer game to others, to study more, to play and slack, to get married, to find a job, to earn money, to have children, to have grand children, and to die...
Others might not agree and feel that there has to be a purpose for their existence.
So what is that purpose?
What do you find meaning in life?
I am not a super duper old wise man or whatever, so i can't give you a 100% correct answer.
So i plan to open up the floor for you to tell me what do you feel the meaning and purpose of life is...
The main attraction of this post will not be what i write, but it'll be what comments that you guys will leave.
It'll be interesting to see everyone's different opinions.
Pls feel free to drop your thoughts and feelings down in my comments.
Not too offensive stuff i hope, haha..
For example you feel that the purpose of life is to have fun.
Or mayB some of you feel that you find meaning in your life when you see other people happy, etc, etc..
So don't be shy!!!
Whoever you are, even if you want to keep your anonnymous status, don't be shy..
Dun be intimidated by other's opinions too, coz mayB other ppl's meaning to life is so noble, but yours might not be.
Like to find a rich husband or a rich wife.
To play dota until you die.
To find a girlfriend/boyfriend.
To find 2 girlfriends/boyfriends.
To be alone with your goldfish everyday, etc, etc..
No matter how.. eh.. "unique" you see your purpose and meaning of life, there is no right and no wrong, only opinions.
So feel free to flood my blog!!
(not with dumb stuff though, haha)
This post has value in view of time and in view of eternity... That is if people really do respond and leave comments, haha..
Thursday, 25 October 2007
Wednesday, 22 August 2007
FUN = Joy ??
To my readers and myself : Sorry for the super duper long delay in updating my blog!!
As you know, I was on my final year project for the past 3 months.
I had a great time doing the project although i had to stay in school from Sunday to Thursday on the 3rd last week, Monday to Saturday on the 2nd last week and Sunday to Friday on the last week.
As in overnight.
So i guess now you could understand why i did not blog for the past few weeks/months.
Anyway, to redeem myself, i've prepared a very good post!
I decided not to continue from the previous post because i realised that i do not have ample research to write a great post about that topic.
So sit back, relax, forget about Rickson not updating his blog for months and enjoy this post!!
Oh, and prepare yourself for a paradigm shift!!! (change in thinking due to being able to see in a new point of view)
Here Goes..
I've realised that not much people has given this a thought.
Is Fun the same as Joy?
Why is there an extensive use of the former but the later used only in certain circumstances?
In the world today, everyone is seeking for Fun.
Upon recieving invitations to parties, to new places where they haven't been to, the first question that pops out from their mouths is...
" Is it fun? "
While on the other hand, I've yet to hear anyone asking "Is it joyful?" or "Will I feel joy?", etc, etc...
So what do they really want?
What do we really want?
Does having fun gives you joy?
The answer behind this question....... is no..
Fun does not equals to Joy.
Having Fun does not equals to having Joy.
Now let me give you a few important points about the difference between Fun & Joy.
1) Joy lasts long, but Fun is temporary.
A common question asked is "Was it Fun?" (not was it joyful)
Another common phrase is "I had Fun that day" (not joy again).
Did you see it?!
Fun is commonly used with "was" and "had", which means Fun is often assisiated with the past.
Fun can fade away easily.
I come to a conclusion through different analysis and research that:
Fun is TEMPORARY.
What about Joy?
A common way to use that vocabulary is "I have joy in my heart."
Joy is seldom assisiated with the past tense.
Phrases such as "I have fun in my heart" and "I had joy" is almost never used. (unless your English isn't very good).
Try to understand the two important sentences I am going write next.
Fun is for the today that will become a yesterday.
Joy is for the tomorrow that will become a today.
Allow me to break it down.
Men today pursue fun all day all night long.
But fun fades away so quickly.
You could be having fun one moment and totally lose the fun the next moment.
But for Joy, it is the opposite.
Joy is something to be pursued for the future.
Joy is like a dream, a vision, a goal that people pursue but will not recieve it immediately, unlike fun.
But upon strong pursuit, we will recieve Joy, and Joy usually lasts long.
thus,
Fun is for the today that will become a yesterday.
Joy is for the tomorrow that will become a today.
2) Joy is e state of heart. Fun is the activity of the heart.
What i mean is that Joy is in the heart, if you have it, you have it. If you don't, then you don't.
But Fun is more of an activity.
That when you are doing something, you feel the fun.
When you stop doing that something, you stop feeling the fun.
Let me give you an analogy.
Having Joy is like saying "I am healthy!"
Having Fun, is like saying "I love to play sports!"
So Fun, though associated with Joy, can be present in total absence of it.
Fun can be present in the absence of Joy.
But Joy cannot be present in the absence of Fun.
Why?
Because the presence of Joy, having Joy in your heart causes you to do things with enjoyment, leading you to experience fun in doing little things that might not seem fun to others.
Joy is like Spectacles to one who has myopia.
When you wear your spectacles, you'll see everything clearer no matter what you are doing.
But for Fun, its like a person with myopia squinting his eyes.
Only when he is squinting his eyes can he see clearer, but when he stops squinting his eyes, he sees a blurer vision again.
And squinting your eyes can never give you as good a vision as wearing your spectacles if you have myopia.
In other words, having Joy is a higher level of having Fun.
Fun is found in the activity.
Joy is found in the person, that causes whatever activity he does to be fun.
It affects you mentally
Whereas Fun is just the activity.
Thus when we are affected by such emotions, we won't feel a desire to participate in activities that produces fun.
let me break it down further.Lets take it that:
Spirit = State of Heart = King
Soul = Emotion = Prince
Body = Activity = Slave
The prince can give orders to the slave who has to listen.
Emotions can command the body to do things as it will.
So when you're feeling down, when you're feeling pain, Fun is commanded to leave by your emotions.
Which means you'll lose the mood to have fun and enjoy life.
On the other hand, the slave can't command the prince to do what he wants.
Which is the problem that the people in the world is experiencing today.
We try to take part in activites to cover up the hurts and brokeness of our hearts.
We try to ask a slave to command a prince.
Our state of heart ultimately decides how we think and what we do.
Even when there is pain, negative emotions, etc, etc, having the right state of heart, namely Joy, will drive us to think positively, to know that emotions are just temporary, and to do things positively too.
So go for the King.
Don't ask a slave to command a prince.
Stop blindly pursueing Fun!!!
PURSUE JOY INSTEAD !!!
The smart thing is to control yourself .
I'm not saying that we deny that we feel sad or hurt.
I'm saying that we should make decisions that will minimize the harm that negative emotions can have on your soul and body.
When you're sad, don't have self pity on yourself and keep listening to music that will make you even more sad.
Becuase you will end up being worse than before, you might fall into depression or feel even more pain.
Instead, tell yourself that everything will be alright.
That None of us are perfect, we still make mistakes.
That at least you have experience now on how to handle things better and not get hurt in the future.
As you know, I was on my final year project for the past 3 months.
I had a great time doing the project although i had to stay in school from Sunday to Thursday on the 3rd last week, Monday to Saturday on the 2nd last week and Sunday to Friday on the last week.
As in overnight.
So i guess now you could understand why i did not blog for the past few weeks/months.
Anyway, to redeem myself, i've prepared a very good post!
I decided not to continue from the previous post because i realised that i do not have ample research to write a great post about that topic.
So sit back, relax, forget about Rickson not updating his blog for months and enjoy this post!!
Oh, and prepare yourself for a paradigm shift!!! (change in thinking due to being able to see in a new point of view)
Here Goes..
I've realised that not much people has given this a thought.
Is Fun the same as Joy?
Why is there an extensive use of the former but the later used only in certain circumstances?
In the world today, everyone is seeking for Fun.
Upon recieving invitations to parties, to new places where they haven't been to, the first question that pops out from their mouths is...
" Is it fun? "
While on the other hand, I've yet to hear anyone asking "Is it joyful?" or "Will I feel joy?", etc, etc...
So what do they really want?
What do we really want?
Does having fun gives you joy?
The answer behind this question....... is no..
Fun does not equals to Joy.
Having Fun does not equals to having Joy.
Now let me give you a few important points about the difference between Fun & Joy.
1) Joy lasts long, but Fun is temporary.
A common question asked is "Was it Fun?" (not was it joyful)
Another common phrase is "I had Fun that day" (not joy again).
Did you see it?!
Fun is commonly used with "was" and "had", which means Fun is often assisiated with the past.
Fun can fade away easily.
I come to a conclusion through different analysis and research that:
Fun is TEMPORARY.
What about Joy?
A common way to use that vocabulary is "I have joy in my heart."
Joy is seldom assisiated with the past tense.
Phrases such as "I have fun in my heart" and "I had joy" is almost never used. (unless your English isn't very good).
Try to understand the two important sentences I am going write next.
Fun is for the today that will become a yesterday.
Joy is for the tomorrow that will become a today.
Allow me to break it down.
Men today pursue fun all day all night long.
But fun fades away so quickly.
You could be having fun one moment and totally lose the fun the next moment.
But for Joy, it is the opposite.
Joy is something to be pursued for the future.
Joy is like a dream, a vision, a goal that people pursue but will not recieve it immediately, unlike fun.
But upon strong pursuit, we will recieve Joy, and Joy usually lasts long.
thus,
Fun is for the today that will become a yesterday.
Joy is for the tomorrow that will become a today.
2) Joy is e state of heart. Fun is the activity of the heart.
What i mean is that Joy is in the heart, if you have it, you have it. If you don't, then you don't.
But Fun is more of an activity.
That when you are doing something, you feel the fun.
When you stop doing that something, you stop feeling the fun.
Let me give you an analogy.
Having Joy is like saying "I am healthy!"
Having Fun, is like saying "I love to play sports!"
So Fun, though associated with Joy, can be present in total absence of it.
Fun can be present in the absence of Joy.
But Joy cannot be present in the absence of Fun.
Why?
Because the presence of Joy, having Joy in your heart causes you to do things with enjoyment, leading you to experience fun in doing little things that might not seem fun to others.
Joy is like Spectacles to one who has myopia.
When you wear your spectacles, you'll see everything clearer no matter what you are doing.
But for Fun, its like a person with myopia squinting his eyes.
Only when he is squinting his eyes can he see clearer, but when he stops squinting his eyes, he sees a blurer vision again.
And squinting your eyes can never give you as good a vision as wearing your spectacles if you have myopia.
In other words, having Joy is a higher level of having Fun.
Fun is found in the activity.
Joy is found in the person, that causes whatever activity he does to be fun.
3) Fun dies in the presence of pain. Joy can live in the presence of pain.
When arguments appear, when conflicts arise, when wounds are felt, Fun will run.
Simply because Fun and Pain are the opposite.
When you have the pain of rejection, the pain of regret, etc, etc, you would not have the mood to have fun.
Becuase Pain is an emotion.
It affects you mentally
Whereas Fun is just the activity.
Thus when we are affected by such emotions, we won't feel a desire to participate in activities that produces fun.
But, like how humans can live breathing oxygen and carbon dioxide together, Joy can live in the presence of pain.
As mentioned earlier, Joy is the state of heart, pain is an emotion and fun is an activity.
Having the right state of heart can allow you to control the emotions that pounce towards you which therefore will affect the activities that you participate in.
Let me break that down for you
Joy = state of heart = spirit
Pain = emotion = soul
Fun = activity = body
The spirit is a level above the soul which in turn is a level above the body.
In other words the spirit is in a higher position than the soul which in turn is in a higher position than the body.
Thus having the right spirit (joy), can control your emotions (soul), which in turn can control what you do (fun)
let me break it down further.Lets take it that:
Spirit = State of Heart = King
Soul = Emotion = Prince
Body = Activity = Slave
The prince can give orders to the slave who has to listen.
Emotions can command the body to do things as it will.
So when you're feeling down, when you're feeling pain, Fun is commanded to leave by your emotions.
Which means you'll lose the mood to have fun and enjoy life.
On the other hand, the slave can't command the prince to do what he wants.
Which is the problem that the people in the world is experiencing today.
We try to take part in activites to cover up the hurts and brokeness of our hearts.
We try to ask a slave to command a prince.
In reality, it is impossible!
You would say "Maybe the slave can use violence to threaten the prince.
Yes, in reality that might work, but eventually the prince would try to escape, along with the help of his father and his followers.
We try so hard to cover our feelings and emotions by doing things that makes us seem like we're doing okay
But one day the prince will escape!!!
The solution then becomes obvious.
How do we command the prince.
Go for the King!!
The answer is the state of your heart!!
Our state of heart ultimately decides how we think and what we do.
Even when there is pain, negative emotions, etc, etc, having the right state of heart, namely Joy, will drive us to think positively, to know that emotions are just temporary, and to do things positively too.
So go for the King.
Don't ask a slave to command a prince.
Stop blindly pursueing Fun!!!
PURSUE JOY INSTEAD !!!
Have the right state of heart.
Have Joy!
Don't have sympathy on your emotions.
At times we might feel down, sad, hurt, etc, etc.
But if you listen to your emotions and continue doing things that will deepen those emotions, if you continue harbouring and focusing on such emotions, you'll be dragged further down each day.
The smart thing is to control yourself .
I'm not saying that we deny that we feel sad or hurt.
I'm saying that we should make decisions that will minimize the harm that negative emotions can have on your soul and body.
When you're sad, don't have self pity on yourself and keep listening to music that will make you even more sad.
Becuase you will end up being worse than before, you might fall into depression or feel even more pain.
Instead, tell yourself that everything will be alright.
That None of us are perfect, we still make mistakes.
That at least you have experience now on how to handle things better and not get hurt in the future.
I shall summarize all this post in two sentences.
PURSUE JOY, AND FUN WILL FOLLOW!!!
Because pursueing joy instead of fun is more beneficial to you.
This post has great value in view of time.
Upon learning this principle that fun does not equals to joy, you will seek and pursue for the right thing which has beneficial results and gain to you on earth.
This post also has great value in view of eternity because by understanding these principles will your character strengthen, will you have joy in your heart and will you enjoy your future allowing you to not waste time thinking of the wrong things but focusing on doing great things.
Now that you see that seeking Joy is the better choice, the next question is "How do we seek for Joy?"
I shall blog about it the next time
This is Rickson Tan.. out.. (camera zooms out and pans out to show the audience in the live studio chattering)
Sunday, 24 June 2007
The Lack of Love..
The world today is a world growing cold in love.
People are seeking for love everywhere only to find out they've been finding it in the wrong places.
Many people think that marriage is the only solution, because when you're married to a person, that person has to "vow" to commit to you forever.
Which brings forth security and feelings of being loved.
But in this century, the divorcement rate in every country is escalating rapidly.
What is the cause for all these?
Or rather, which is the cause and which is the effect?
Is divorce an effect for the lack of love or is it the one that causes feelings of lack of love?
what else is linked to the lack of love in the world?
For now, i could think of two main effects..
The lack of love results in the development of either one of these two characteristics in our lives.
1) A rebellious attitude
2) Depression
It might be difficult to believe, but yes, the lack of love is manifested in such a way.
I shall talk more about it next time (due to my fatique gained from my final year project, i have to continue it another day), but for today, i want you to really spend some time thinking.
Do you have a lack of love?
Not just bgr, but love from parents, love from friends, or even love from yourself.. I'm sure that at least 80% or more will have a lack of love in a certain area of his/her life.
If you do, what form has it manifested as?
You have a rebellious attitude (pride) or some form of depression (feelings of unworthiness or insecurity, etc, etc..).
So identify the problem first.
I will update soon in more detail about what really are the exact causes of rebellion and depression, and the effects of the lack of love..
This post is more like a Pre-post for the up coming post.
People are seeking for love everywhere only to find out they've been finding it in the wrong places.
Many people think that marriage is the only solution, because when you're married to a person, that person has to "vow" to commit to you forever.
Which brings forth security and feelings of being loved.
But in this century, the divorcement rate in every country is escalating rapidly.
What is the cause for all these?
Or rather, which is the cause and which is the effect?
Is divorce an effect for the lack of love or is it the one that causes feelings of lack of love?
what else is linked to the lack of love in the world?
For now, i could think of two main effects..
The lack of love results in the development of either one of these two characteristics in our lives.
1) A rebellious attitude
2) Depression
It might be difficult to believe, but yes, the lack of love is manifested in such a way.
I shall talk more about it next time (due to my fatique gained from my final year project, i have to continue it another day), but for today, i want you to really spend some time thinking.
Do you have a lack of love?
Not just bgr, but love from parents, love from friends, or even love from yourself.. I'm sure that at least 80% or more will have a lack of love in a certain area of his/her life.
If you do, what form has it manifested as?
You have a rebellious attitude (pride) or some form of depression (feelings of unworthiness or insecurity, etc, etc..).
So identify the problem first.
I will update soon in more detail about what really are the exact causes of rebellion and depression, and the effects of the lack of love..
This post is more like a Pre-post for the up coming post.
Wednesday, 20 June 2007
Coming Soon...
Sorry!!
It's been an extremely long time since i've blogged, due to a major project i'm taking on now.
I'm currently doing my final year project!!
Its like the final examination for the 3 years of my Diploma, and thus the delay.
Sorry for the inconvenience.
I'm apologising to those people who like to read my blog and feels that i'm wasting my "interesting-blog-writing" talent. I'm not saying its very good, i just say its interesting, haha.. Bad things can be interesting too. So don't think that i'm proud when i say i have the talent to write interesting stuff, haha..
I will do my best to keep blogging!
If possible, i'm going to blog by this Sunday..
so prepare yourselves for the most most awaiting blog entry this summer.. Coming soon..
It's been an extremely long time since i've blogged, due to a major project i'm taking on now.
I'm currently doing my final year project!!
Its like the final examination for the 3 years of my Diploma, and thus the delay.
Sorry for the inconvenience.
I'm apologising to those people who like to read my blog and feels that i'm wasting my "interesting-blog-writing" talent. I'm not saying its very good, i just say its interesting, haha.. Bad things can be interesting too. So don't think that i'm proud when i say i have the talent to write interesting stuff, haha..
I will do my best to keep blogging!
If possible, i'm going to blog by this Sunday..
so prepare yourselves for the most most awaiting blog entry this summer.. Coming soon..
Monday, 16 April 2007
I Shouldn't Be Alive
This title is the same title of a documentary airing on Discovery Channel.
You've guessed it, I am not going to talk about relationships or love or infatuations in this post.
I'm going to teach you survival skills...
Treat this as a advertisement break from your everyday life.
I watched an episode of "I Shouldn't Be Alive" a month ago, but was too busy to pen it all down.
Anyway, its about these 3 friends who decide to explore the Amazon forest together.
It'll be interesting, so sit back and enjoy~~
The story starts off with 3 friends who want to explore the Amazon forest (by the way, its a true story).
They went to a nearby village and found a guide who self-elevates his ability as a guide.
FOUL #1 - Make sure your guide is really experienced. read up a little and test him first.
FOUL #2 - They were unable to tell that the guide was not very good because they themselves have not read up much on or have much experience in survival skills.
TIP #1 - Always read up on something before you start doing it
Unaware of what the forest has in store for them, the four of them started the adventure.
On the 2nd day(if i remember correctly), one of the guys complained about pain in his foot.
Due to my poor memory, lets just name this guy "Squidward".
So anyway, Squidward took off his boots and found out that his foot was in a very bad shape.
It has becomed a square!!
Nah, kidding.
The skin off his foot was peeling off and his foot was partially swollen.
FOUL #3 - What Squidwart just experienced is called TRENCH FOOT.
This is a symptom whereby our feet get soaked in water for too long such that the skin tears and now germs and bacteria are given direct access to his foot.
If left untreated, it will get much worser, to the extent that it leads to death.
TIP #2 - Every hour of travelling (especially if the ground is wet), take a small break. Sit down, take off your boots and socks and let your feet breathe. Dry your feet a little by using your hands to clean your feet. By the way, I am only referring to people travelling in a forest or jungle, not in a city or town. I don't want this post to spark of a new trend of taking off your shoes to dry your feet in orchard road.
Anyway, Squidward also complained about his headaches, which was a symptom of his trenched foot.
So Sandy (the guide's name, a result of my poor memory again) decided to make his way back to the village with Squidward.
The other two guys, "Spongebob" and "Patrick" decided to continue exploring the Amazon forest.
FOUL #4 - Do NOT explore a forest without a guide!!!
Tip #3 - Follow the guide always.. But don't follow him too closely, the guide might misunderstand due to the society issues of our century, which were stirred up even more by many movies such as Brokeback Forest.. i mean mountain.
So Sandy and Squirward went off, while Spongebob and Patrick decided to try out the river.
They build their own raft and decided to go down the river.
Foul #5 - Know how strong the rapids of a river is before attempting to sail on it.
Tip #4 - Never try out a river unknown to you.
As they were going down the river, the rapids got so strong that it threw the both of them off the raft.
Upon regaining consciousness, Spongebob realised that he was now alone, left only with a machete (huge knife, a.k.a ang moh parang).
He decided not to take the machete as it was quite heavy, and decided to walk along the river to find Patrick.
Foul #6 - A knife is the most important tool you can have if you are in the forest. It is a vital tool for your self-defense and survival.
Tip # 5 - Carry your knife with you everyhwere!
After walking for 5 hours, Spongebob got very hungry.
He realised that he made a wrong move by leaving his machete, but decided not to go back and take it because e would have wasted 10 hours if he did that.
Tip #6 - Told you the knife is important.
Tip #7 - Find food.
a)fruits
Choose those fruits that you see animals eating.
Test those fruits by rubbing it against your skin and wait for 1 or 2 minutes.
If nothing happens, rub against your lips and wait for 1-2min.
Then your tongue for 1-2min.
If rashes or something else appear, don't be stupid to continue eating, its actually safer to eat your own faeces than those.
If nothing happens, bite it and chew for1-2min, then swallow and wait for another 45min.
Still nothing happens?
Then its totally safe to continue eating the same kind of fruit.
b) insects
find some wierd looking nuts from the floor and crack them open.
If you see larvae (white in colour, those that look like extremely fat and hairless caterpillars, usually portrayed as alien larvae in movies), you can eat them directly, they are super high in proteins.
Don't be afraid to eat it, i think it'll taste like bubble tea pearls.
Pluck out the head of grasshopper, then the legs, then the wings, and slurp up the juice from its body.
Those are super rich in proteins too. (Rickson is not making all these up, these are facts!! by the wway, it has been proven that insects contain x times more proteins than animals. That explains why ants are so strong :D)
c) snall animals..
like rabits, snakes, or even a snake that swallowed a rabbit (two-in-one).
Look out for small snakes (not those like the cobra which obviously has alot venom in it) that has its attention drawn away. Maybe the snake found a mice or something.
Then from behind, grab its head tight. You control a snake's entire body by controlling its head.
Slice the snake into two, open in up and tada!! Amazon Unagi.. something like that lar..
If you find a rat in the snake's belly, please throw it away.
If you find a hamster in the snake's belly, you might want to split open the hamster's stomach because hamsters eat grasshoppers too, and you might find a grasshopper inside for food! Its all about survival man. (Rickson's personal advice).
BUT, if you neglected Tip #6 and left your knife somewhere else, then i don't know how you're gonna eat the snake and hamster you found man. You can still eat the grasshopper though.
Tip #8 - Told you the knife was really important. Its good that you realise it by now. Maybe you can start taking precautions by carrying a pen knife everywhere you go..
But guys please don't use it to cut other people.
And girls please don't use it to cut yourselves.
And biology students, don't experiment dissecting hamsters at home.
But Spongebob did not have the courage nor the knowledge to find food, and thirst was getting to him.
Tip #9 - look for water in plant stems (vines).. chop off both end and pure rainwater will flow
If you don't have your knife, then it'll be more difficult.
Because water everywhere might b filled with bacteria, unless it comes from a clear sky, which rarely happens in a forest because the sky is covered by leaves in the Amzon forest.
If u see a puddle of clean water don't try it immediately.
Dig a small hole a metre away and let the water from the puddle flow in and get filtered by the roots in the ground.
Then drink straight from the top of the new puddle.
The bad news is, the water might still be infected.
The good news, its less infected. :D
After a long day of travelling, Patrick could still not be found.
The night is setting in with clouds of insecurity and fear covering the sky.
Spongebob lies down on the ground, hoping that the night will pass soon, while dreaming of his pineapple home under the sea.
Foul #6 - Do not sleep on a the ground of the forest!!
Why? Because at night, millions of ants will come out, and the bites of the ants can kill you.
Futhermore, if it suddenly rain heavily, a flood or landslide might get you.
Tip #10 - In a forest, the most dangerous time is in the night.
Build your "house" early, before a hint of nightfall sets in.
The best is that you use a poncho to make a hammock (a hanging bed or couch made of canvas, netted cord, with cords attached to supports at each end.)
If you do not have a poncho, find a tree hollow, gather alot of branches and make a bed there.
Just make sure that you are above ground.
Poor little Spongebob's efforts availed him little in trying to get some sleep on the ground of the forest.
When he woke up, he was filled with ant bites and mosquito bites.
Tip #11 - Bring a mosquito net along.
Cover yourself with it when you're sleeping.
The animals that hunt in the night are scary, but the most dangerous of all are the many mosquitoes that are ready to sample your blood without permission and inject drugs into your blood which causes dengue and malaria.
Tip #11 - Find natural mosquito repellents
Find a fruit that looks like a coconut which stinks real bad.
I don't mean a decomposed coconut, i mean a coconut looking fruit that looks fresh but stinks like crap. Smellier than smelly tofu (famous delicacy in certain parts of asia).
Wait... i think the smell comes from the inside of the fruit.
So you got to crack open the fruit first.
If it stinks, you got your mosquito repellent.
If it does not stink, rejoice, you found yourself a coconut (food).
Anyway, rub the flesh of the fruit (not the coconut, the other one) on a small portion of your skin and wait for an hour.
If nothing happens, you probably hit the jackpot.
Mosquitoes hate the smell of such fruits, many other animals too.
So apply on your skin before nightfalls (even if your face has lots of pimples).
A balloon flew up into the air, reaching for the heavens.
Suddenly, a very strong glare emits from the sky.
Patrick jumped up to his feet, to realise... that he was dreaming. (extra parts by Rickson to add interest)
It took him less than a minute to recover from that temporal amnesia he had and realised that he is now lost in the forest alone.
Technically he is not lost alone because Spongebob is lost too.
So i have to rephrase it...
Patrick is now alone and lost.
As darkness pours down from above, Patrick realised that he was in trouble.
Thoughts of regret filled his mind as he thought about the times he was watching cartoon instead of watching the many seasons of survivor that aired frquently on prime time back in his country.
Can Spongebob and Patrick outwit, outplay and outlast the Amazon forest?
What about Squidward and Sandy?
CREDITS
Adapted from "I Shouldn't Be alive"
producer
Rickson Tan
writer
Rickson Tan
Et Cetera (etc)
Rickson Tan
This post has great value in view of time, because you'll never know when you'll end up lost in a jungle/forest.
Plus the fact that most men will have to go for National Service (in my country - Singapore) and would have a high chance of being in a forest. These survival skills alone can save your life.
This post have value in view of eternity too because your life could be saved by knowing such skills, and the extra years of life you have from surviving gives you more time to do things that have great value.
more time = more opportunities to do great things.
So get yourself more time by learning survival skills, watching your health, and taking simple precautions to avoid accidents such as putting on your safety belt.
Yes, putting on your safety belt has value in view of eternity too!!! haha..
But it is also how you use your "extra" time that is important..
voom*
How do we make the best smoke signal?
voom*
What if you fall sick in the forest?
voom* voom*
What are the best ways to get out of a forest?
voom* voom* voom*
Have you ever wondered why we tend to walk in circles when lost?
voom* voom* voom* voom*
Tune in next week, only on i-v-o-e channel...
]to be continnued]
You've guessed it, I am not going to talk about relationships or love or infatuations in this post.
I'm going to teach you survival skills...
Treat this as a advertisement break from your everyday life.
I watched an episode of "I Shouldn't Be Alive" a month ago, but was too busy to pen it all down.
Anyway, its about these 3 friends who decide to explore the Amazon forest together.
It'll be interesting, so sit back and enjoy~~
The story starts off with 3 friends who want to explore the Amazon forest (by the way, its a true story).
They went to a nearby village and found a guide who self-elevates his ability as a guide.
FOUL #1 - Make sure your guide is really experienced. read up a little and test him first.
FOUL #2 - They were unable to tell that the guide was not very good because they themselves have not read up much on or have much experience in survival skills.
TIP #1 - Always read up on something before you start doing it
Unaware of what the forest has in store for them, the four of them started the adventure.
On the 2nd day(if i remember correctly), one of the guys complained about pain in his foot.
Due to my poor memory, lets just name this guy "Squidward".
So anyway, Squidward took off his boots and found out that his foot was in a very bad shape.
It has becomed a square!!
Nah, kidding.
The skin off his foot was peeling off and his foot was partially swollen.
FOUL #3 - What Squidwart just experienced is called TRENCH FOOT.
This is a symptom whereby our feet get soaked in water for too long such that the skin tears and now germs and bacteria are given direct access to his foot.
If left untreated, it will get much worser, to the extent that it leads to death.
TIP #2 - Every hour of travelling (especially if the ground is wet), take a small break. Sit down, take off your boots and socks and let your feet breathe. Dry your feet a little by using your hands to clean your feet. By the way, I am only referring to people travelling in a forest or jungle, not in a city or town. I don't want this post to spark of a new trend of taking off your shoes to dry your feet in orchard road.
Anyway, Squidward also complained about his headaches, which was a symptom of his trenched foot.
So Sandy (the guide's name, a result of my poor memory again) decided to make his way back to the village with Squidward.
The other two guys, "Spongebob" and "Patrick" decided to continue exploring the Amazon forest.
FOUL #4 - Do NOT explore a forest without a guide!!!
Tip #3 - Follow the guide always.. But don't follow him too closely, the guide might misunderstand due to the society issues of our century, which were stirred up even more by many movies such as Brokeback Forest.. i mean mountain.
So Sandy and Squirward went off, while Spongebob and Patrick decided to try out the river.
They build their own raft and decided to go down the river.
Foul #5 - Know how strong the rapids of a river is before attempting to sail on it.
Tip #4 - Never try out a river unknown to you.
As they were going down the river, the rapids got so strong that it threw the both of them off the raft.
Upon regaining consciousness, Spongebob realised that he was now alone, left only with a machete (huge knife, a.k.a ang moh parang).
He decided not to take the machete as it was quite heavy, and decided to walk along the river to find Patrick.
Foul #6 - A knife is the most important tool you can have if you are in the forest. It is a vital tool for your self-defense and survival.
Tip # 5 - Carry your knife with you everyhwere!
After walking for 5 hours, Spongebob got very hungry.
He realised that he made a wrong move by leaving his machete, but decided not to go back and take it because e would have wasted 10 hours if he did that.
Tip #6 - Told you the knife is important.
Tip #7 - Find food.
a)fruits
Choose those fruits that you see animals eating.
Test those fruits by rubbing it against your skin and wait for 1 or 2 minutes.
If nothing happens, rub against your lips and wait for 1-2min.
Then your tongue for 1-2min.
If rashes or something else appear, don't be stupid to continue eating, its actually safer to eat your own faeces than those.
If nothing happens, bite it and chew for1-2min, then swallow and wait for another 45min.
Still nothing happens?
Then its totally safe to continue eating the same kind of fruit.
b) insects
find some wierd looking nuts from the floor and crack them open.
If you see larvae (white in colour, those that look like extremely fat and hairless caterpillars, usually portrayed as alien larvae in movies), you can eat them directly, they are super high in proteins.
Don't be afraid to eat it, i think it'll taste like bubble tea pearls.
Pluck out the head of grasshopper, then the legs, then the wings, and slurp up the juice from its body.
Those are super rich in proteins too. (Rickson is not making all these up, these are facts!! by the wway, it has been proven that insects contain x times more proteins than animals. That explains why ants are so strong :D)
c) snall animals..
like rabits, snakes, or even a snake that swallowed a rabbit (two-in-one).
Look out for small snakes (not those like the cobra which obviously has alot venom in it) that has its attention drawn away. Maybe the snake found a mice or something.
Then from behind, grab its head tight. You control a snake's entire body by controlling its head.
Slice the snake into two, open in up and tada!! Amazon Unagi.. something like that lar..
If you find a rat in the snake's belly, please throw it away.
If you find a hamster in the snake's belly, you might want to split open the hamster's stomach because hamsters eat grasshoppers too, and you might find a grasshopper inside for food! Its all about survival man. (Rickson's personal advice).
BUT, if you neglected Tip #6 and left your knife somewhere else, then i don't know how you're gonna eat the snake and hamster you found man. You can still eat the grasshopper though.
Tip #8 - Told you the knife was really important. Its good that you realise it by now. Maybe you can start taking precautions by carrying a pen knife everywhere you go..
But guys please don't use it to cut other people.
And girls please don't use it to cut yourselves.
And biology students, don't experiment dissecting hamsters at home.
But Spongebob did not have the courage nor the knowledge to find food, and thirst was getting to him.
Tip #9 - look for water in plant stems (vines).. chop off both end and pure rainwater will flow
If you don't have your knife, then it'll be more difficult.
Because water everywhere might b filled with bacteria, unless it comes from a clear sky, which rarely happens in a forest because the sky is covered by leaves in the Amzon forest.
If u see a puddle of clean water don't try it immediately.
Dig a small hole a metre away and let the water from the puddle flow in and get filtered by the roots in the ground.
Then drink straight from the top of the new puddle.
The bad news is, the water might still be infected.
The good news, its less infected. :D
After a long day of travelling, Patrick could still not be found.
The night is setting in with clouds of insecurity and fear covering the sky.
Spongebob lies down on the ground, hoping that the night will pass soon, while dreaming of his pineapple home under the sea.
Foul #6 - Do not sleep on a the ground of the forest!!
Why? Because at night, millions of ants will come out, and the bites of the ants can kill you.
Futhermore, if it suddenly rain heavily, a flood or landslide might get you.
Tip #10 - In a forest, the most dangerous time is in the night.
Build your "house" early, before a hint of nightfall sets in.
The best is that you use a poncho to make a hammock (a hanging bed or couch made of canvas, netted cord, with cords attached to supports at each end.)
If you do not have a poncho, find a tree hollow, gather alot of branches and make a bed there.
Just make sure that you are above ground.
Poor little Spongebob's efforts availed him little in trying to get some sleep on the ground of the forest.
When he woke up, he was filled with ant bites and mosquito bites.
Tip #11 - Bring a mosquito net along.
Cover yourself with it when you're sleeping.
The animals that hunt in the night are scary, but the most dangerous of all are the many mosquitoes that are ready to sample your blood without permission and inject drugs into your blood which causes dengue and malaria.
Tip #11 - Find natural mosquito repellents
Find a fruit that looks like a coconut which stinks real bad.
I don't mean a decomposed coconut, i mean a coconut looking fruit that looks fresh but stinks like crap. Smellier than smelly tofu (famous delicacy in certain parts of asia).
Wait... i think the smell comes from the inside of the fruit.
So you got to crack open the fruit first.
If it stinks, you got your mosquito repellent.
If it does not stink, rejoice, you found yourself a coconut (food).
Anyway, rub the flesh of the fruit (not the coconut, the other one) on a small portion of your skin and wait for an hour.
If nothing happens, you probably hit the jackpot.
Mosquitoes hate the smell of such fruits, many other animals too.
So apply on your skin before nightfalls (even if your face has lots of pimples).
A balloon flew up into the air, reaching for the heavens.
Suddenly, a very strong glare emits from the sky.
Patrick jumped up to his feet, to realise... that he was dreaming. (extra parts by Rickson to add interest)
It took him less than a minute to recover from that temporal amnesia he had and realised that he is now lost in the forest alone.
Technically he is not lost alone because Spongebob is lost too.
So i have to rephrase it...
Patrick is now alone and lost.
As darkness pours down from above, Patrick realised that he was in trouble.
Thoughts of regret filled his mind as he thought about the times he was watching cartoon instead of watching the many seasons of survivor that aired frquently on prime time back in his country.
Can Spongebob and Patrick outwit, outplay and outlast the Amazon forest?
What about Squidward and Sandy?
CREDITS
Adapted from "I Shouldn't Be alive"
producer
Rickson Tan
writer
Rickson Tan
Et Cetera (etc)
Rickson Tan
This post has great value in view of time, because you'll never know when you'll end up lost in a jungle/forest.
Plus the fact that most men will have to go for National Service (in my country - Singapore) and would have a high chance of being in a forest. These survival skills alone can save your life.
This post have value in view of eternity too because your life could be saved by knowing such skills, and the extra years of life you have from surviving gives you more time to do things that have great value.
more time = more opportunities to do great things.
So get yourself more time by learning survival skills, watching your health, and taking simple precautions to avoid accidents such as putting on your safety belt.
Yes, putting on your safety belt has value in view of eternity too!!! haha..
But it is also how you use your "extra" time that is important..
voom*
How do we make the best smoke signal?
voom*
What if you fall sick in the forest?
voom* voom*
What are the best ways to get out of a forest?
voom* voom* voom*
Have you ever wondered why we tend to walk in circles when lost?
voom* voom* voom* voom*
Tune in next week, only on i-v-o-e channel...
]to be continnued]
Thursday, 22 March 2007
Diploma in Acceptance
Today, I am going to feed you with the foundation basics if you were to take a diploma in acceptance... What do i mean?
There are laws that are not in the physical realm.
Laws such as the law of gravity, the laws of motion, and even the laws of love, etc, etc..
Basically, those are the laws that keep the earth going round.
All these are good.
But, many of us behave as if we are highly skilled in certain laws.
To be precise, the law that is often abused and the one that i am going to talk about, is the law of acceptance.
Why that?
Because so many of us think that we know about acceptnace so much that we can decide who/what should be accepted and who/what should not.
It is as if we know and understand literature so much, that when someone comes up with a new way to express certain things with literature that we feel is not right, we dismiss it as wrong.
But if you were to understand literature, literature is about personal expressions of experiences being artistically penned down into words, and there is no right or wrong.
let me give you an example.
One day John comes up to you in tears, "Bob... Tyrannosaurus died yesterday. He was a really good terapine (small turtle). He was my best friend whom i always trusted, he had never betrayed me before, never hurt my feelings, never cheat on me, and he's always there for me. I really miss him."
So you replied, "Don't be sad. You didn't really lose a best friend. You still have me."
"But he was really my best friend. He always listened to me whenever i had problems."
"How do you know he even listened? He doesn't even have any ears for goodness sake."
"But.. but.. but... He was always there for me."
"Because he was stuck in his tank 24 hours. Listen John, don't be so sad, he isn't your real best friend. You still have other friends out there."
"BUT HE WAS REALLY THERE FOR ME!!!!"
"He's just a terapine, so what if it died? Come on John, don't think so much about it already, its just a terapine."
"HE'S NOT AN IT!!! HE'S MY BEST FRIEND WHO IS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME!! AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION HE DOES NOT LIVE IN A TANK, HE LIVES IN THE TOILET BOWL IN MY ROOM!! AND YESTERDAY HE JUST DIED AND DISAPPEARED INTO THIN AIR!!"
" He was in your toilet bowl? No wonder i saw something moving. Phew! Heng man, i thought my stomach had worms or something like that."
For those who didn't get it, Bob flushed Tyrannosaurus down the toilet bowl lar.
Anyway, many of us behave like this.
Wait, let me rephrase it.
All of had behaved in the same manner at least once before.
What manner am i referring to?
Bob rejected John saying that his terapine was his best friend. And he even tried convincing John that he was just being foolish.
But the fact is, to John, Tyrannasorous was really his best friend!!
So many of us behave like Bob.
When we think we know certain things, we reject anything that is contradictory to it and neglect the feelings behind it.
Even worse, we continue making people feel bad by convincing them that they were foolish.
I don't mean only in such situations.
How many times have we not accepted people who are different? or should i use the word that we oftenly use to describe them : wierd.
People who not just have physical but mental disabilities too.
People who have problems with their eyesight,
people with speaking disabilities,
people who have problems with their legs,
people who look wierd,
people who are extremely obese,
people with huge birth marks,
people who have a paralyze body or facial part,
people with a funny hairdo,
people who are hyperactive,
people who can't control talking alot,
people are slow in understanding,
people who are super duper quiet,
people who behave differently at times,
people who do not talk in a very tactful manner not on purpose,
people who are not trained to have manners from young,
people who don't look very decent,
people who look too decent (a.k.a nerdy),
people who have a wierd sense of dressing,
people who have "lower class" occupations,
girls who behave too rough,
guys who behave too gentle (a.k.a aqua),
people who are bisexual or homosexual, etc, etc...
The list continues running.
I mean who have not rejected at least one person in his/her life?
or should i say, who had treated everyone he/she know with great acceptance?
And when i say acceptance, i mean "the act of accepting with approval; favorable reception".
not many right.
But, Why do we need to show acceptance?
Because all of us are of the same level, none of us are of a higher breed, even if we think so.
All of us are humans.
So what if John was being foolish to think that his terapine is his best friend?
So what if he sees things in a different point of view?
John is still a human like us who have feelings and Bob (as a good friend) should accept the part of John that loves his Tyrannasorous.
Imagine you were the one who was born with a paralyzed limb or facial feature instead.
How many people will make fun of you in primary school?
How many bullies will beat you up in secondary school?
How many companies will turn you down in interviews just because you look different?
How many people will treat you as their best friend?
How many guys/girls will approach you and talk to you because you look good?
Imagine you were the one who was sexually abused when young and thus when you grow up you lost trust for the opposite sex and only are attracted to the same sex..
After so much abuse, you grow up thinking it'll be better but now you continue getting rejected by society.
Imagine you were the one born with a very low metabolism rate and could not shed weight no matter how little you eat. You have this physical problem, and instead of encouraging you, people around you laugh at you for being fat.
Its not just these extreme cases that deserve attention.
Even the minor ones such as behavioral problems and stuff.
Some people just do not know how to behave "normal" even though they want to.
Instead of helping them, we condemn them and judge them.
I admit that i am guilty too.
But i realized that those people are suffering enough already, and they deserved to be loved as much as i deserve to be.
In fact, even more!!
Why do I, a person with not much problems or difficulties recieve more love than people who have so much problems and difficulties just because i am well recieved by society?
It is not fair ot them.
How many times have they cried out thinking how unfair life is to them.
It is not life that is so unfair, it is people who create and add in to the unfairness of life!!
Whether you are part of the cure or part of the disease (like in the coldplay song), it is our choice. Those who choose to be the cure continue reading. Those who still don't feel a need to be part of the cure, please keep reading what i've written above until you feel a need to be part of the cure.
Or you could try asking your friends and family to help you by not being accepting to you for one week. By the end of the week, you'll understand how it feels.
So let me give you two enlightening points on how to accept people easier.
How to "force" your unsympathetic hearts (many of us have pity on people at times, but we don't know why we just can't show it) to become accepting.
1. Do Not Judge!!! measure...
Judging is one of the killers of relationships, be it with friends, strangers or close ones.
Measure instead.
What do I mean? For example, maybe you have to take the waist line of an obese person. So you measure her waist and tells him that her waist line is 45 inches. That is called measuring and is okay. But, when you tell her "you are fat", that is judging!
Judging doesn't care about how people feel, judging is just making a general statement, and that is what hurts people. Things like "you are always like that", "you are like this everytime", "you are never so good", etc, etc.. Avoid speaking in general because speaking in general is a part of stereotyping and judging.
When people ask you how his hairstyle look, (no matter how terrible it is) don't tell the person that your hair sucks or something like that. Give an honest answer but do not neglect his feelings. You could say "hmmm.. I feel that it'll look much better if its neater, or you could cut your hair shorter because i don't think long hair suits you", or something like that. I'm sure none of you want to hear people saying that your hair sucks. So avoid speaking in general!
2. See people as "perfect enough"
"I am imperfect yet people accept me. Thus I am going to accept him even though he's less perfect."
That is the mentality to have if you want to become a very accepting and loving person. None of us are perfect, though there are some people whe are way less "perfect" than us. Remember what i talked about in "Dream Girl... Dream Guy part 2"? We fall in love because we start seeing a certain person (be it opposite or same gender) as perfect, neglecting their flaws. This is how we can love others too!! As in in terms of friends.
Though many people have much more flaws and are many times irritating or scary to be with. But we just have to remember that we are on the same level as them, we are all humans. Thus if you want to love someone, see the person as "perfect enough" for you to love him. No one is too imperfect to recieve your love.
This post have great value in view of time and in view of eternity.
Because with more accepting people in this world that we live in today, it will be a much better place. The people who get rejected by society will be able to see and feel hope, and love.
The suicidal rate in this world is ever increasing, 1 out of 3 deaths in China is because of suicide. And i believe that the main reason is because they do not have hope, because they were not accepted.
Thus, i ask that those of you who read this be more accepting today. Start small conversations with the "wierd" people that you know whom not many people talk to. You'll never know how much impact these small things that you do with acceptance have.
There are laws that are not in the physical realm.
Laws such as the law of gravity, the laws of motion, and even the laws of love, etc, etc..
Basically, those are the laws that keep the earth going round.
All these are good.
But, many of us behave as if we are highly skilled in certain laws.
To be precise, the law that is often abused and the one that i am going to talk about, is the law of acceptance.
Why that?
Because so many of us think that we know about acceptnace so much that we can decide who/what should be accepted and who/what should not.
It is as if we know and understand literature so much, that when someone comes up with a new way to express certain things with literature that we feel is not right, we dismiss it as wrong.
But if you were to understand literature, literature is about personal expressions of experiences being artistically penned down into words, and there is no right or wrong.
let me give you an example.
One day John comes up to you in tears, "Bob... Tyrannosaurus died yesterday. He was a really good terapine (small turtle). He was my best friend whom i always trusted, he had never betrayed me before, never hurt my feelings, never cheat on me, and he's always there for me. I really miss him."
So you replied, "Don't be sad. You didn't really lose a best friend. You still have me."
"But he was really my best friend. He always listened to me whenever i had problems."
"How do you know he even listened? He doesn't even have any ears for goodness sake."
"But.. but.. but... He was always there for me."
"Because he was stuck in his tank 24 hours. Listen John, don't be so sad, he isn't your real best friend. You still have other friends out there."
"BUT HE WAS REALLY THERE FOR ME!!!!"
"He's just a terapine, so what if it died? Come on John, don't think so much about it already, its just a terapine."
"HE'S NOT AN IT!!! HE'S MY BEST FRIEND WHO IS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME!! AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION HE DOES NOT LIVE IN A TANK, HE LIVES IN THE TOILET BOWL IN MY ROOM!! AND YESTERDAY HE JUST DIED AND DISAPPEARED INTO THIN AIR!!"
" He was in your toilet bowl? No wonder i saw something moving. Phew! Heng man, i thought my stomach had worms or something like that."
For those who didn't get it, Bob flushed Tyrannosaurus down the toilet bowl lar.
Anyway, many of us behave like this.
Wait, let me rephrase it.
All of had behaved in the same manner at least once before.
What manner am i referring to?
Bob rejected John saying that his terapine was his best friend. And he even tried convincing John that he was just being foolish.
But the fact is, to John, Tyrannasorous was really his best friend!!
So many of us behave like Bob.
When we think we know certain things, we reject anything that is contradictory to it and neglect the feelings behind it.
Even worse, we continue making people feel bad by convincing them that they were foolish.
I don't mean only in such situations.
How many times have we not accepted people who are different? or should i use the word that we oftenly use to describe them : wierd.
People who not just have physical but mental disabilities too.
People who have problems with their eyesight,
people with speaking disabilities,
people who have problems with their legs,
people who look wierd,
people who are extremely obese,
people with huge birth marks,
people who have a paralyze body or facial part,
people with a funny hairdo,
people who are hyperactive,
people who can't control talking alot,
people are slow in understanding,
people who are super duper quiet,
people who behave differently at times,
people who do not talk in a very tactful manner not on purpose,
people who are not trained to have manners from young,
people who don't look very decent,
people who look too decent (a.k.a nerdy),
people who have a wierd sense of dressing,
people who have "lower class" occupations,
girls who behave too rough,
guys who behave too gentle (a.k.a aqua),
people who are bisexual or homosexual, etc, etc...
The list continues running.
I mean who have not rejected at least one person in his/her life?
or should i say, who had treated everyone he/she know with great acceptance?
And when i say acceptance, i mean "the act of accepting with approval; favorable reception".
not many right.
But, Why do we need to show acceptance?
Because all of us are of the same level, none of us are of a higher breed, even if we think so.
All of us are humans.
So what if John was being foolish to think that his terapine is his best friend?
So what if he sees things in a different point of view?
John is still a human like us who have feelings and Bob (as a good friend) should accept the part of John that loves his Tyrannasorous.
Imagine you were the one who was born with a paralyzed limb or facial feature instead.
How many people will make fun of you in primary school?
How many bullies will beat you up in secondary school?
How many companies will turn you down in interviews just because you look different?
How many people will treat you as their best friend?
How many guys/girls will approach you and talk to you because you look good?
Imagine you were the one who was sexually abused when young and thus when you grow up you lost trust for the opposite sex and only are attracted to the same sex..
After so much abuse, you grow up thinking it'll be better but now you continue getting rejected by society.
Imagine you were the one born with a very low metabolism rate and could not shed weight no matter how little you eat. You have this physical problem, and instead of encouraging you, people around you laugh at you for being fat.
Its not just these extreme cases that deserve attention.
Even the minor ones such as behavioral problems and stuff.
Some people just do not know how to behave "normal" even though they want to.
Instead of helping them, we condemn them and judge them.
I admit that i am guilty too.
But i realized that those people are suffering enough already, and they deserved to be loved as much as i deserve to be.
In fact, even more!!
Why do I, a person with not much problems or difficulties recieve more love than people who have so much problems and difficulties just because i am well recieved by society?
It is not fair ot them.
How many times have they cried out thinking how unfair life is to them.
It is not life that is so unfair, it is people who create and add in to the unfairness of life!!
Whether you are part of the cure or part of the disease (like in the coldplay song), it is our choice. Those who choose to be the cure continue reading. Those who still don't feel a need to be part of the cure, please keep reading what i've written above until you feel a need to be part of the cure.
Or you could try asking your friends and family to help you by not being accepting to you for one week. By the end of the week, you'll understand how it feels.
So let me give you two enlightening points on how to accept people easier.
How to "force" your unsympathetic hearts (many of us have pity on people at times, but we don't know why we just can't show it) to become accepting.
1. Do Not Judge!!! measure...
Judging is one of the killers of relationships, be it with friends, strangers or close ones.
Measure instead.
What do I mean? For example, maybe you have to take the waist line of an obese person. So you measure her waist and tells him that her waist line is 45 inches. That is called measuring and is okay. But, when you tell her "you are fat", that is judging!
Judging doesn't care about how people feel, judging is just making a general statement, and that is what hurts people. Things like "you are always like that", "you are like this everytime", "you are never so good", etc, etc.. Avoid speaking in general because speaking in general is a part of stereotyping and judging.
When people ask you how his hairstyle look, (no matter how terrible it is) don't tell the person that your hair sucks or something like that. Give an honest answer but do not neglect his feelings. You could say "hmmm.. I feel that it'll look much better if its neater, or you could cut your hair shorter because i don't think long hair suits you", or something like that. I'm sure none of you want to hear people saying that your hair sucks. So avoid speaking in general!
2. See people as "perfect enough"
"I am imperfect yet people accept me. Thus I am going to accept him even though he's less perfect."
That is the mentality to have if you want to become a very accepting and loving person. None of us are perfect, though there are some people whe are way less "perfect" than us. Remember what i talked about in "Dream Girl... Dream Guy part 2"? We fall in love because we start seeing a certain person (be it opposite or same gender) as perfect, neglecting their flaws. This is how we can love others too!! As in in terms of friends.
Though many people have much more flaws and are many times irritating or scary to be with. But we just have to remember that we are on the same level as them, we are all humans. Thus if you want to love someone, see the person as "perfect enough" for you to love him. No one is too imperfect to recieve your love.
This post have great value in view of time and in view of eternity.
Because with more accepting people in this world that we live in today, it will be a much better place. The people who get rejected by society will be able to see and feel hope, and love.
The suicidal rate in this world is ever increasing, 1 out of 3 deaths in China is because of suicide. And i believe that the main reason is because they do not have hope, because they were not accepted.
Thus, i ask that those of you who read this be more accepting today. Start small conversations with the "wierd" people that you know whom not many people talk to. You'll never know how much impact these small things that you do with acceptance have.
Monday, 12 March 2007
Dream Guy... Dream Girl... (part 2A)
From the Board of Directors of I-V-O-E : If you have not read the previous post "Dream Girl... Dream Guy... (part 1)", i encourage you to read it first before you read this post. It'll be better and you'll get more out of it.
The post that you were waiting for.. is finally here!!!
Its been sooooooo very super ultra super extra very duper extra long man. haha.
Sorry readers.. I've just completed a major project and am now in an industrial attachement, thus the delay in the delivery of this post. I promise i'll do my best to not get delayed for so long in future. Probably an update every week.
Anyway, before i start officially blogging about "Dream Girl... Dream Guy... (part 2)", i want to share how i feel about the response on my blog. Firstly, i'm happy because i really enjoyed blogging and the comments you people gave.
I recieved encouragements, praises, hate comments, and even confessions from a guy who thinks he's a girl.
On the other hand, i was wondering, who really reads my blog? Because only 5 different people left comments on my previous post even after much persuasion. Hmmm.. Actually i know quite a number of my friends -at least more than 5- who read my blog. I guess you're just shy lar, so i shall forgive all of you, haha..
Okay, commercial break time is over. Time to touch back on to my main topic.
The theme of my blog is doing things in view of eternity, yet enjoying life on earth.
But have you wondered why did i include a post about having a dream guy/girl/animal/object?
I mean, having a dream guy/girl/animal/object give us joy and pleasure only in our minds, in our fantasies. But usually, the great expectation leads to a greater disappointment. Needless to say about people who having dream guyS or girlS. Yes, to me, having a dream guy or girl will make us more miserable. UNLESS, we know how to handle it...
Here comes the serious stuff...
Let me show you now, what the words "dream guy" or "dream girl" mean to the average person.
Your dream guy or girl is a person who appears in your fantasies the way you picture your perfect spouse to be. - Rickson
Of course that is not a perfect defination, or something i found in the dictionary. I believe though, that that is how most of us would think when the words "dream guy" or "dream girl" are mentioned. I found this quote by anonymous (as in the author is unknown, i'm not referring to any anonymous who left comments on my blog, haha)
“Infatuations: This is the stuff of 'falling in love,' living in a rosy magical glow, etc. My beloved has no faults and is perfect. We shall live happily ever after. This is denial, overlooking many things all too obvious to those around me. Infatuati”
What the author mean is that infatuation causes you to live in your own fantasy. You do not think by logic or common sense when in an infatuation. One more last quote.. I couldn't find it on the net, either i forgot the words, or it never existed. Because it really seemed like there is no such quote around, must've been something thats always in my mind and feels so real that i thought i read it somewhere..
Anyway, here goes..
We fall in love when we start seeing someone who is imperfect as perfect...
If you noticed, there is one word which is common in all the quotes/defination mentioned above: perfect. So what point am i trying to make here?
That, like what i mentioned above, we fall in love because we start seeing certain people as perfect. And the most important question here is that..
Why do we see certain people as perfect?
I'm sure i've whetted your appetite right now, but i'd like to have another commercial break. I want you right now, to think about a girl or guy that u have an infatuation on.
For those who do not know the meaning of "infatuation", please read my previous post.
Anyway, choose one of the infatuation that is more recent or the most impactful one.
Take one minute to think why do you see the person as perfect?
DON'T continue reading, just take a one minute break to think about it. Because i believe that by doing so, the things that i am going to share with you later will make more sense.
So, go take a break right now, look out of your window and start thinking. Not only does it benefit your brain, it benefits your eyes too. Staring too long at your computer can give you asmagtism or cause myopia, haha.
Come back in a minute~
I see your true colours
Shining through
I see your true colours
thats why i love you
So don't be afraid
to let it show
your true colours
true colours
so beautiful
COMMERCIAL BREAK OVER!! haha.
Lets get back to the main topic.
So why did see that person as perfect? Because she's so cute? Because he's so sexy?
It might sound stupid (or it might sound like you're stupid if that is the real reason), but that MIGHT actually be the answer to why you see that person as perfect.
In fact, the answer to why we see the person we have a crush on as perfect because... He or she fits in the description of our Dream Guy or Dream Girl!!!
Put on your safety helmets, here comes the good stuff..
Having a dream guy or dream girl is like placing a recruitment ad on who you would like to be with. We have limited space to write what we want, and thus many of us will just post the main points such as "have beautiful eyes", "a very happy person", "have a great sense of humour", etc, etc.. AND... when the person comes along with all these good points that we are looking for, we instantly HIRE them!!
Even if they have many other bad points, we'll still hire them.
And, the thing about infatuation is that we see people as perfect when we look at their good points (the ones that we want). BUT, we neglect that fact that the person have many other bad points too. and thus... your infatuation for that person develops!!
let me give you an example.
So you have this female friend of yours.
She's pretty, has a good attitude, shares the same interest as you (for example basketball), and even able to shoot a hoop from halfcourt. But when she raises her hands to shoot a basketball, the sight of the numerous cylindrical, keratinized, often pigmented filaments characteristically growing from the epidermis of a mammal (hair) found at the hollow under the upper part of the arm at the shoulder (armpit) does not affect you at all.
For those who do not get what i mean, i mean "the sight of the uncountable hair at her armpits does not affect you", haha.
Why? I mean, a woman having armpit hair (especially if found in large quantities) is a chracteristic labelled as "unhygenic" or "lazy" or even "disgusting" in many parts of the world. But why wouldn't it affect the person who has a crush on her?
Because he sees her as perfect!!
Her good qualities "blinded" him so much that he could not see her bad qualities.
So, all his friends would talk behind her back about how unsightly it was to play basketball with her. How wasted it was that such a pretty girl happens to be pretty "disgusting" too.
BUT, the guy who has a crush on her would feel otherwise.
The thoughts that will come into his mind might be something like this:
"WoOahH!!! she's such a rare beauty!! she has such a strong character man!!
she's so brave to not shave her armpit even though society calls it as unsightly..
WoOahH!!! She's pretty, she loves basketball, and now she's sooooo brave and daring!!
She dares to make a statement.. oh.. and she dares to break wind (fart) in front of a lot people too... i LoOoOoVe courageous women!!! She's not afraid to be who she is... she's just so.. so.. sooo... unique!!!"
hahahaha..
oh btw, I (Rickson) did not know that women have armpit hair and that they shave them until the age of 18!!! Shocking.. As in no one told me. And society managed to conceal it from me for 18 years!! Amazing.. Or maybe i was just naive in the past, haha.. anyway, lets move on from here.
So let me summarize what point that i was trying to make.
Having a Dream Guy or Girl leads to having an infatuation.
And why would i blog about something that sounds so common?
Because, having an infatuation leads to many other things and some might be dangerous.
On the good side, infatuation helps love blossom. It gives you a desire to know someone more and to love the person more. Infatuation itself is not bad, but it may lead to many bad things.
Anyway, take a break for awhile to digest everything i touched on 1st, then continue reading on "Dream Girl... Dream Guy... (part 2b)"
Here comes the trailer..
Have you had an infatuation before?
voom*
The 3 bad points of Infatuation..
voom*
that has been stealthily affecting you.
voom*
voom*
voom*
Unwanted infatuation..
voom*
Learn how to get over it today...
voom*
voom*
voom*
(to be continued)
The post that you were waiting for.. is finally here!!!
Its been sooooooo very super ultra super extra very duper extra long man. haha.
Sorry readers.. I've just completed a major project and am now in an industrial attachement, thus the delay in the delivery of this post. I promise i'll do my best to not get delayed for so long in future. Probably an update every week.
Anyway, before i start officially blogging about "Dream Girl... Dream Guy... (part 2)", i want to share how i feel about the response on my blog. Firstly, i'm happy because i really enjoyed blogging and the comments you people gave.
I recieved encouragements, praises, hate comments, and even confessions from a guy who thinks he's a girl.
On the other hand, i was wondering, who really reads my blog? Because only 5 different people left comments on my previous post even after much persuasion. Hmmm.. Actually i know quite a number of my friends -at least more than 5- who read my blog. I guess you're just shy lar, so i shall forgive all of you, haha..
Okay, commercial break time is over. Time to touch back on to my main topic.
The theme of my blog is doing things in view of eternity, yet enjoying life on earth.
But have you wondered why did i include a post about having a dream guy/girl/animal/object?
I mean, having a dream guy/girl/animal/object give us joy and pleasure only in our minds, in our fantasies. But usually, the great expectation leads to a greater disappointment. Needless to say about people who having dream guyS or girlS. Yes, to me, having a dream guy or girl will make us more miserable. UNLESS, we know how to handle it...
Here comes the serious stuff...
Let me show you now, what the words "dream guy" or "dream girl" mean to the average person.
Your dream guy or girl is a person who appears in your fantasies the way you picture your perfect spouse to be. - Rickson
Of course that is not a perfect defination, or something i found in the dictionary. I believe though, that that is how most of us would think when the words "dream guy" or "dream girl" are mentioned. I found this quote by anonymous (as in the author is unknown, i'm not referring to any anonymous who left comments on my blog, haha)
“Infatuations: This is the stuff of 'falling in love,' living in a rosy magical glow, etc. My beloved has no faults and is perfect. We shall live happily ever after. This is denial, overlooking many things all too obvious to those around me. Infatuati”
What the author mean is that infatuation causes you to live in your own fantasy. You do not think by logic or common sense when in an infatuation. One more last quote.. I couldn't find it on the net, either i forgot the words, or it never existed. Because it really seemed like there is no such quote around, must've been something thats always in my mind and feels so real that i thought i read it somewhere..
Anyway, here goes..
We fall in love when we start seeing someone who is imperfect as perfect...
If you noticed, there is one word which is common in all the quotes/defination mentioned above: perfect. So what point am i trying to make here?
That, like what i mentioned above, we fall in love because we start seeing certain people as perfect. And the most important question here is that..
Why do we see certain people as perfect?
I'm sure i've whetted your appetite right now, but i'd like to have another commercial break. I want you right now, to think about a girl or guy that u have an infatuation on.
For those who do not know the meaning of "infatuation", please read my previous post.
Anyway, choose one of the infatuation that is more recent or the most impactful one.
Take one minute to think why do you see the person as perfect?
DON'T continue reading, just take a one minute break to think about it. Because i believe that by doing so, the things that i am going to share with you later will make more sense.
So, go take a break right now, look out of your window and start thinking. Not only does it benefit your brain, it benefits your eyes too. Staring too long at your computer can give you asmagtism or cause myopia, haha.
Come back in a minute~
I see your true colours
Shining through
I see your true colours
thats why i love you
So don't be afraid
to let it show
your true colours
true colours
so beautiful
like a rainbow.
The average age of females having eating disorders... is 15..
COMMERCIAL BREAK OVER!! haha.
Lets get back to the main topic.
So why did see that person as perfect? Because she's so cute? Because he's so sexy?
It might sound stupid (or it might sound like you're stupid if that is the real reason), but that MIGHT actually be the answer to why you see that person as perfect.
In fact, the answer to why we see the person we have a crush on as perfect because... He or she fits in the description of our Dream Guy or Dream Girl!!!
Put on your safety helmets, here comes the good stuff..
Having a dream guy or dream girl is like placing a recruitment ad on who you would like to be with. We have limited space to write what we want, and thus many of us will just post the main points such as "have beautiful eyes", "a very happy person", "have a great sense of humour", etc, etc.. AND... when the person comes along with all these good points that we are looking for, we instantly HIRE them!!
Even if they have many other bad points, we'll still hire them.
And, the thing about infatuation is that we see people as perfect when we look at their good points (the ones that we want). BUT, we neglect that fact that the person have many other bad points too. and thus... your infatuation for that person develops!!
let me give you an example.
So you have this female friend of yours.
She's pretty, has a good attitude, shares the same interest as you (for example basketball), and even able to shoot a hoop from halfcourt. But when she raises her hands to shoot a basketball, the sight of the numerous cylindrical, keratinized, often pigmented filaments characteristically growing from the epidermis of a mammal (hair) found at the hollow under the upper part of the arm at the shoulder (armpit) does not affect you at all.
For those who do not get what i mean, i mean "the sight of the uncountable hair at her armpits does not affect you", haha.
Why? I mean, a woman having armpit hair (especially if found in large quantities) is a chracteristic labelled as "unhygenic" or "lazy" or even "disgusting" in many parts of the world. But why wouldn't it affect the person who has a crush on her?
Because he sees her as perfect!!
Her good qualities "blinded" him so much that he could not see her bad qualities.
So, all his friends would talk behind her back about how unsightly it was to play basketball with her. How wasted it was that such a pretty girl happens to be pretty "disgusting" too.
BUT, the guy who has a crush on her would feel otherwise.
The thoughts that will come into his mind might be something like this:
"WoOahH!!! she's such a rare beauty!! she has such a strong character man!!
she's so brave to not shave her armpit even though society calls it as unsightly..
WoOahH!!! She's pretty, she loves basketball, and now she's sooooo brave and daring!!
She dares to make a statement.. oh.. and she dares to break wind (fart) in front of a lot people too... i LoOoOoVe courageous women!!! She's not afraid to be who she is... she's just so.. so.. sooo... unique!!!"
hahahaha..
oh btw, I (Rickson) did not know that women have armpit hair and that they shave them until the age of 18!!! Shocking.. As in no one told me. And society managed to conceal it from me for 18 years!! Amazing.. Or maybe i was just naive in the past, haha.. anyway, lets move on from here.
So let me summarize what point that i was trying to make.
Having a Dream Guy or Girl leads to having an infatuation.
And why would i blog about something that sounds so common?
Because, having an infatuation leads to many other things and some might be dangerous.
On the good side, infatuation helps love blossom. It gives you a desire to know someone more and to love the person more. Infatuation itself is not bad, but it may lead to many bad things.
Anyway, take a break for awhile to digest everything i touched on 1st, then continue reading on "Dream Girl... Dream Guy... (part 2b)"
Here comes the trailer..
Have you had an infatuation before?
voom*
The 3 bad points of Infatuation..
voom*
that has been stealthily affecting you.
voom*
voom*
voom*
Unwanted infatuation..
voom*
Learn how to get over it today...
voom*
voom*
voom*
(to be continued)
Sunday, 11 March 2007
Dream Girl... Dream Guy... (part 2B)
Continued from Dream Girl... Dream Guy... (part 2A)..
please read that post before reading this in order to digest better.
Now let me give you 3 bad points that Infatuation has.
1. Infatuation leads to Lonliness & Disappointment..
Yes, you finally found out why you feel lonely so often.
Although it is not the main source nor the main cause of loneliness, having an infatuation contributes to it. Especially if the person whom you have a crush on does not feel the same way for you. I do not need to emphasize so much on this point, because most of you could agree on the many times of lonliness you felt when this girl or guy does not feel the same way you feel for them. And many times, this lead us into getting disappointed in ourselves, having thoughts that we aren't we good enough for others. In fact, the lonliness generated from having a one-sided infatuation might lead us into depression.
For a two-sided infatuation (meaning both parties have a crush on each other), lonliness might be released in times when you are unsure of how the other party feels or you misunderstand the other party.
The lonliness generated is an exceptionally high amount because your expectation for a person when you're in an infatuation is exceptionally high; perfect.
As in the things they do, not who they are, because you are already seeing them as perfect, thus certain actions that you did not expect from them might cause a great amount of disappointment.
2. Infatuation is a glutton.
Now what do i mean by saying that?
I mean that infatuation eats up your time, energy and even your joy, like a glutton.
It really does take up alot of our time. When we have a crush on someone, we spend a large percentage of our time thinking of the person.
Remember my goldfish example in the previous post?
We will think of the person we have a crush on to the extent that we are giving up hours of quality fellowship with our bed. We end up rolling on our bed, thinking about the person we like, thinking about how to impress the person, thinking about the countless different ways you would bring you and the person together if you were God, thinking about how you would "coincidentally" bump into each other or how "fate" will bring the both of you together.
If you have gone through this before, you don't need to feel so guilty, because almost all of us have been through it (except for those who so far only had crushes on their goldfishes).
If you have gone through this before, you don't need to feel so guilty, because almost all of us have been through it (except for those who so far only had crushes on their goldfishes).
Check out this quote i found:
“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” - Dr Seuss
3. Infatuation might cause you to end up with the "wrong person".
Why do i say that?
Because when we have infatuations, we set a certain standard that the person we want to end up with has to be. And, when such standards are met, we will begin to see them even more perfectly. We recieve a sense of confirmation that he or she really is THE ONE from the standards that we place.
Chim.. Let me break it down so that you can digest it better.
Lets say Jane (fiction character) likes cute guys who are at least 1.8m tall.
So she gets to know this cute 1.8m tall guy, and her heart then tells her that this might be THE ONE. Jane also likes guys who has a good sense of humour, and it happens that this guy has a good sense of humour too. Now, jane also likes guys who can play the guitar well.
Coincidentally, this guy can play the guitar well too.
WOW!
Jane's getting excited. Is this THE ONE for her? She keeps that thought ringing in her head.
Last of all, Jane likes romantic guys. And this guy is not only romantic, he is SUPER romantic.
So the idea that this guy is THE ONE now concludes into a fact in her heart.
And the fact stays in her heart even though later on she finds out the guy smokes, is a flirt, or maybe he was born a girl!!!
So that is how it works.
We set certain requirements THE ONE must have. And when someone comes along with such qualities, we take is that he/she/it is THE ONE!! Neglecting the fact that we might mislook on the things that we do not want our ONE to have because of our blindness (Infatuation blinds).
There are certain bad qualities that we cannot overlook if we want to find THE REAL ONE.
Let me give you two of the most inmportant qualities your THE REAL ONE must have.
a. Filial Peity
Why that?
Because, if a person is not filial to his/her parents, it means that he/she is not a committed person. And if the person cannot be committed to someone who raised him up with unconditional love for years, you cannot expect him to be committed to you.
This pattern is reflected in our society too.
Compared to decades ago, the respect that parents recieved from their childrens decreased.
Honoring and respecting our parents used to be a commandment that is highly valued in most societies.
But the IN thing now... FREEDOM.
A freedom that teaches us that there is no need for commitment, and what we want is more important than what we must do. The consequences...
A rapid increase in divorce rate. Now 1 out of every 4 Singaporean marriage, 1 out of every 3 American marriage, 1 out of every 2 French marriage, suffered divorce.
So find someone who will do what he/she must instead of what he/she wants.
And if you someone who is not filial, start practising it today.
Be grateful to your parents, they raised you up, feed you, cloth you, work their lives out dry for you, and what do they gain?
A taste of our adolescence and teenage attitude, all the rebellion, etc, etc..
It is as if they owe us something. But in fact we owe them our lives, so be grateful and practise filial piety.
b.Anger Management
If you know anyone who has never been angry before, GOOD NEWS!!
You've found a martian!!! haha..
Because humans are bound to get angry no matter how good their temper is.
The problem is..
How FREQUENT do they get angry and what do they do when they get angry?
People who get angry quite frequently but do not release their angry through physical means are quite alright. Of course, they must release it, if not they'll end up with tonnes of grudges.
The dangerous level is people who release their anger physically.
Even in small amounts, it is very dangerous.
For example, they beat their brother-in-law's dog with a broken bamboo stick, or do other stupid stuff empowered by anger. These are the people you should watch out for even if they do not abuse you physically. Because with such practises (releasing anger physically), one day he/she might start abusing you.
I'm sure you've heard the term "practice makes perfect". That is true for our attitudes too.
So by constant giving in to anger, constantly "practising" anger, they master the skills of abusing people. So watch out for such people.
Anyway, before all my friends start turning into monks and nuns or practice celibacy, i shall not add any more bad points of having an Infatuation. Personally, i feel that having a dream guy or dream girl is not that bad, its just that we do not know how to handle it.
After addressing so much about this issue, i want you to question your heart again.
Are you having a crush on the wrong person?
Or worse, are you in relationship with the wrong person?
You wonder why you feel so sad with him/her, and now you realise he/she is the wrong person.
Think about it now, do you really want to be with THIS ONE whom you like now??
Its not too late if your answer is no.
Countless books and magazines contain articles about how to love. I strongly do believe in loving others, but if you have feelings with the wrong person, if you have a crush on a person you do not want to be with, you need to know how to "un-love" them. Not to the extend that you hate them, but just to break free from that bondage of Infatuation you are in.
Its not too late if your answer is no.
Countless books and magazines contain articles about how to love. I strongly do believe in loving others, but if you have feelings with the wrong person, if you have a crush on a person you do not want to be with, you need to know how to "un-love" them. Not to the extend that you hate them, but just to break free from that bondage of Infatuation you are in.
Of course i will still advice you to love the person as a friend.
So now here it is.
After many years of experience and hard work, i've discovered how to break free from an infatuation easily. It took me only one week to break free from the feelings i had for a person (girl, not guy) for approximately two years.
2 Steps To Get Over An Unwanted Infatuation
1. Know EXACTLY what you want.
The key word here is EXACTLY.
Why?
Because the lack of details open room for misinterpretation.
For example...
You tell your friend to buy a ball of blue string for you.
So your friend goes to a shop and realises that there are different types of strings; rafia, cloth, etc, etc. And, there are different tones of blue and different lengths of string too.
So because there is a lack of details, he would not get EXACTLY what you wanted. His brain will just be focused in getting a ball of blue string. And most likely, the material and length will not be EXACTLY what you wanted, but since it is already bought, you decided to just use that blue string.
So it is in our own lives.
We tell ourselves that we want some string (spouse) that is blue (good looking, or any other quality). And we when we arrive at the shop (world), we realise there are lots of blue strings with different material (personality) and length (attitudes). And because of the lack of details we gave to ourselves, we just choose and blue string that seem the most attractive.
And after awhile, we might realise that this is not the EXACT blue string that we want.
But since we have already bought it, we decided to use it anyway.
So BE DETAILED!!
Details Determines your Destiny.
Don't be focus with just one or two qualities that you look in for THE ONE, such as appearance or financial status. Instead, make sure you do not miss out on points such as being filial, understanding, etc. The lack of such characteristics are often the cause of realising that you're with THE WRONG ONE years down the road.
I would rather you use the time to find THE REAL ONE than waste it on a wrong person.
You can save the time of going back to the shop again. But, i advice you that if you realise that you end up with the wrong ball of blue string, go back and change it. Its better than suffering the rest of your life with it.
Knowing EXACTLY what you want is an insurance that secures you from having a crush on the wrong person in future. Of course, the outcome is still base on what you ultimately decide on.
Oh by the way, do not go to the other extreme to expect that you will find a real perfect spouse too. Humans have a fallen nature and none of us are perfect. Be ready to neglect on certain points such as looks, financial status, or certain character flaws. But do not neglect major flaws such as unfilial and angry (very angry i mean) people.
Always be flexible to neglect the minor expectations.
And to see if you are not overdoing it, measure it with yourself.
Your expectations for someone cannot be more perfect than you are.
Because a swine can never attract a sheep.
2. See the person IMPERFECTLY.
This is the GOLDEN RULE to get yourself out of an infatuation.
Force yourself to look at his/her shortcomings. Then weigh it with his/her good characteristics.
Which is more worth it?
Is it worth having a boyfriend who loves you alot but is one who cannot control his temper that might lead to physical abuse in the future?
No its not.. Be patient...
It is not as if he is the only person who will ever love you so much. If he was able to love you so much, someone else would be able to too. So weigh the pros and cons well.
If the person is an extremely good person, but does not look that good, or does not look like the way you dreamed THE ONE to be, he/she is still worth it.
If the person is an extremely good person, but does not look that good, or does not look like the way you dreamed THE ONE to be, he/she is still worth it.
THINK WITH YOUR EYES OPEN!!! -Rickson
Measure it well.
Don't get blinded by the love and care that the other party offers to you.
If you decide that the cons is heavier than the pros, then force yourself to remember the cons and remind yourself regularly that it is not worth it.
That you are worth someone better.
REMIND YOURSELF which is heavier(the pros and the cons).
And do your best not to be wishy-washy, not to be influence by others' opinions.
Stick to the equation you made, whether it is worth it or not.
And i can promise you, if you do it right, in a week or so you will be able to get yourself out of an unwanted infatuation.
Only unless his/her pros outweigh the cons, then i encourage you to continue on.
Only unless his/her pros outweigh the cons, then i encourage you to continue on.
So thats all for now.
Remember what i'd touched on and do not let yourself fall into uneccessary infatuation.
And don't worry, there is still someone else out there.
This article has great value in view of eternity. It also has a great value in view of time. Because who you marry will determine whether you have heaven or hell on earth. So be patient and don't get blinded. THINK WITH YOUR EYES OPEN!!
Wednesday, 7 February 2007
Dream Girl... Dream Guy... (part 1)
Have you ever had a dream girl or guy?
Here's a piece of good news for you....... YOU'RE A HUMAN!!!
For those who never had a dream girl or guy or had sorta of a crush on anyone or object or animal before... I'm not saying that you're not human, (unless you're a hamster who can read) eh... you're just unique.. haha..
So don't be so sad, you'll grow up and have a crush one day.
For those who don't know what the word "crush" mean, let me try to explain it to you in simple terms.
Remember when you were younger when your mummy bought you a pet? (I'll use goldfish as an example) You can't stop thinking of your goldfish right?
When you are in school, you think of your goldfish, when you are bathing, you think of your goldfish, when you are eating, you think of your goldfish (other than thinking of eating your goldfish), even when you sleep, you dream about one day when a fairy will come down to make your goldfish be able to live outside water, so he can sleep with you.
Remember those times?
Thats an example of you having a crush on your goldfish.
But usually we humans have crushes on other humans, i used goldfish as an example for the sake of the minority "unique" ones out there, haha.
Anyway, thats the same for us (the goldfish example) !
When we have a crush, we think of the person/people/object/animal everywhere we go and everytime. When we are bored, stress, tired, joyful, sick, or even when we read about things such as floods in Jakarta, we think about our crush.
I know its hard to admit it, but you know that it is true!
I mean only when you're having a crush lar (perfect use of singlish here, haha).
Anyway, let me give you the true defination of crush with the help of dictionary.com
The defination of crush is "an intense but usually short-lived infatuation."
and the defination of infatuation is "A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction."
Look at the keywords here, SHORT-LIVED, FOOLISH, UNREASONING & EXTRAVAGENT PASSION OR ATTRACTION.
See, now you believe in my goldfish example. haha.
I have alot more to blog about this topic, alot of serious stuff.
But since valentine's day is around the corner, i shall not spoil the mood first, will continue blogging part two of this topic.
By the way, in anticipation of curious questionings i will recieve in the future, i gotta say that i don't really have a crush right now.
Even if i do, i won't be indulging in this foolish, unreasoning, or extravagent passion or attraction.
So don't come up to me and asking me who my crush is, or why do i blog about this, do i have a crush etc, etc...
You'll see the true intentions of me blogging about this topic on my next post =D.
I would like to end off this post differently.
If you noticed, my blog have so little comments.
Not that i want to seek fame or anything like that, but i enjoy making my blog more interesting, it could be a place where you could share your point of view to me too.
So for this post, i would like all the readers out there to be SPONTANEOUS!!
Leave comments about at least ONE THING that you want your dream girl/guy/object to have or be or be.
OR, one situation whereby you want to be with your dream girl/guy/object.
For example, you always hope that one day you would "accidentally" fall of the bus steps. And "coincidentally", you dream guy (the guy you have a crush on) is behind you. So you experience abit pain for the moment (Like an old Chinese saying goes "First bitter, then sweet"). So your dream guy have to carry you home because you have a twisted ankle now.
Ooops, "coincidentally" you alighted at the wrong stop too, which happens to be two bus stops away from your house. And your dream guy somehow forgot about the existence of vehicles (like in many love drams) and decides to carry you all the way home. And when you reach hope, you "forgot" to bring your house keys, and "coincidentally" your whole family went abroad 2 hours ago and will be back only tomorrow. So out of compassion, your dream guy offers a stay at his house, and he "forgets" about the existence of vehicles again and carries you all the way home.
Something liddat. Of course, it does not need to be so detailed and i hope that truly there is no one out there with such a fantasy. Its scary.
So go leave a coment NOW. I don't mind if you're shy and leave the comment as anonymous.
I'll lead by example and leave one "anonymous" comment first, haha.
So lets get into the mood of valentine's day confession!!
plus, for all the single out there, you'll feel better to know that you're not the only one on earth with such wacky fantasies, haha.
This post has certain value in view of time due to the fun it brings. It does not have any value in view of eternity, but the 2nd post that is linked to this will be of great value.
Here's a piece of good news for you....... YOU'RE A HUMAN!!!
For those who never had a dream girl or guy or had sorta of a crush on anyone or object or animal before... I'm not saying that you're not human, (unless you're a hamster who can read) eh... you're just unique.. haha..
So don't be so sad, you'll grow up and have a crush one day.
For those who don't know what the word "crush" mean, let me try to explain it to you in simple terms.
Remember when you were younger when your mummy bought you a pet? (I'll use goldfish as an example) You can't stop thinking of your goldfish right?
When you are in school, you think of your goldfish, when you are bathing, you think of your goldfish, when you are eating, you think of your goldfish (other than thinking of eating your goldfish), even when you sleep, you dream about one day when a fairy will come down to make your goldfish be able to live outside water, so he can sleep with you.
Remember those times?
Thats an example of you having a crush on your goldfish.
But usually we humans have crushes on other humans, i used goldfish as an example for the sake of the minority "unique" ones out there, haha.
Anyway, thats the same for us (the goldfish example) !
When we have a crush, we think of the person/people/object/animal everywhere we go and everytime. When we are bored, stress, tired, joyful, sick, or even when we read about things such as floods in Jakarta, we think about our crush.
I know its hard to admit it, but you know that it is true!
I mean only when you're having a crush lar (perfect use of singlish here, haha).
Anyway, let me give you the true defination of crush with the help of dictionary.com
The defination of crush is "an intense but usually short-lived infatuation."
and the defination of infatuation is "A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction."
Look at the keywords here, SHORT-LIVED, FOOLISH, UNREASONING & EXTRAVAGENT PASSION OR ATTRACTION.
See, now you believe in my goldfish example. haha.
I have alot more to blog about this topic, alot of serious stuff.
But since valentine's day is around the corner, i shall not spoil the mood first, will continue blogging part two of this topic.
By the way, in anticipation of curious questionings i will recieve in the future, i gotta say that i don't really have a crush right now.
Even if i do, i won't be indulging in this foolish, unreasoning, or extravagent passion or attraction.
So don't come up to me and asking me who my crush is, or why do i blog about this, do i have a crush etc, etc...
You'll see the true intentions of me blogging about this topic on my next post =D.
I would like to end off this post differently.
If you noticed, my blog have so little comments.
Not that i want to seek fame or anything like that, but i enjoy making my blog more interesting, it could be a place where you could share your point of view to me too.
So for this post, i would like all the readers out there to be SPONTANEOUS!!
Leave comments about at least ONE THING that you want your dream girl/guy/object to have or be or be.
OR, one situation whereby you want to be with your dream girl/guy/object.
For example, you always hope that one day you would "accidentally" fall of the bus steps. And "coincidentally", you dream guy (the guy you have a crush on) is behind you. So you experience abit pain for the moment (Like an old Chinese saying goes "First bitter, then sweet"). So your dream guy have to carry you home because you have a twisted ankle now.
Ooops, "coincidentally" you alighted at the wrong stop too, which happens to be two bus stops away from your house. And your dream guy somehow forgot about the existence of vehicles (like in many love drams) and decides to carry you all the way home. And when you reach hope, you "forgot" to bring your house keys, and "coincidentally" your whole family went abroad 2 hours ago and will be back only tomorrow. So out of compassion, your dream guy offers a stay at his house, and he "forgets" about the existence of vehicles again and carries you all the way home.
Something liddat. Of course, it does not need to be so detailed and i hope that truly there is no one out there with such a fantasy. Its scary.
So go leave a coment NOW. I don't mind if you're shy and leave the comment as anonymous.
I'll lead by example and leave one "anonymous" comment first, haha.
So lets get into the mood of valentine's day confession!!
plus, for all the single out there, you'll feel better to know that you're not the only one on earth with such wacky fantasies, haha.
This post has certain value in view of time due to the fun it brings. It does not have any value in view of eternity, but the 2nd post that is linked to this will be of great value.
Saturday, 27 January 2007
Wah Cow!!
Finally!!! A new post in my blog. I've been waiting so long to fork out some time to update my blog, due to the unlimited projects my school offers me which makes me feel that the school fees are more than worth it.
Anyway, today's blog will be a little different. I will expose my creative flair in storytelling to you guys. I'm gonna blog about a story which i came out with in one of my modules called concept pitch.
Enjoy!!
The story of a black cow
The story starts with a scene of the universe. The camera zooms in slowly on earth and you could see that Mars is yellow(yes, Mars is yellow, i'm the creator of the story and i call the shots, hah). Then, the Narrator speaks in an Elvis-tone voice: "If pigs can fly, what about cows?"
With great speed, the camera zooms into earth, whooshing past small meteorites and honey stars, until we reach the grassfields in New Zealand. There are many hills and mountains surrounding the grassfield where a million cows can be seen grazing it.
The camera pans to the right to show a cow walking up one of the hills in the foreground, away from the rest of the herd. The cow is black in colour with white patches instead. He takes a look back at the herd with disdain, and continues walking forward. After a few steps, cow stops at the top of the hill. His attention gets caught up by the majestic glow of the moon which outshines all the stars around it. [(you can see mars beside the moon (yes, you can see Mars with your naked eye in this story and it is still yellow)] Visions and destiny can be seen stirring up in his soul, through cow's eyes.
Suddenly, what seem like sparkles whizz past cow. Without hesitation cow turns its head to take a look. To his amazement, he sees 3 little fairy pigs flying to their little mushroom-camouflaged houses. The 3 little pigs have wings and each of them wore a skirt of a different colour; red, green & blue (like the powerpuffgirls). They happily enter their place of dwelling which happens to be mushroom-capped houses each made of different materials; straw, sticks & bricks.
Out of curiosity (a natural basic instinct of cows), cow motions himself closer to the mushroom houses. Another surge of curiosity stirs in him again (cows are really curious animals man). He ponders for awhile, then blows at the mushroom houses. His gentle breath becomes whirls of typhoons in the point of view of the little pigs with their little houses. The foundation of their houses instantaneously gave way without showing any hint struggle. What seems like a 20 feet vicious black giant is standing in front of the powerpuff pigs now.
Fear overcomes them as they cover their heads with their hands and go down on all fours with their wings sticking out. Suddenly, a growl can be heard... from cow's stomach. The pig's wings illusionizes into beautiful delicious grass blades in the eyes of cow. Without any thoughts of compassion, cow bites its' wings and swings the pigs away, causing their wings to snap. He continues to chew the wings while the pigs lay unconscious beside him.
Out of the sudden, cow's body begins to float. He takes a look at himself and sees sparkles surrounding his body, causing it to glow.Now it dawns in him that he has the power to fly like the powerpuff pigs. He looks up into the sky again, with passion burning in his eyes, like a small boy chancing upon a giant chocolate cookie ice-cream bubble-gum sweet (thats what i would like when i'm young). Cow bends down to gather strength in his legs, and takes a gigantic jump towards the moon. (background music: A symphonice band plays a piece that stirs up hope, faith and destiny) Whoosh, he disappears out of sight into space.
The introduction of Star Wars starts playing, with the classic Star wars sound track and the text “A long time ago in a galaxy far far away” starts rolling. “Whee!” cow flies past the words. Cow continues flying in space with glee shown all over his face. Meanwhile, more honey stars, cow carcasses in flying pose and Doraemon opening a wrong door into outer space can be seen in the background. Cow looks to his left and realizes that he has flew past the moon. A great sense of satisfaction fills his being, as if he had reached his destiny.
Then, he realized that his left hand is beginning to catch fire. Cow looks up, and to his horror, he is about to crash into Mars! He panics and tries hard to steer himself away but he could not. As he accelerates closer to Mars, cow panics more, with tears in his eyes now, he struggles hard to brake but to no avail. He is now just a few feet away from Mars, traveling at an amazing speed covered in a fireball. Now he looks like as if he saw a giant Godzilla-eating Lizard. [as in a giant lizard eating Godzilla (yes, cows are afraid of lizards in this story just as how elephants are afraid of mice)]
The camera zooms out to a bird eye view as cow slams into Mars with a loud “piak”. His blood sprays all over Mars causing Mars to turn red. An astrologer pulls away his telescope an exclaims, “WAH COW!”
A boy who coincidentally looks like me(the author) on the street points to the sky and exclaims, “WAH COW!” The people on the streets and in their houses notice that Mars is red in colour too and exclaim together in one voice, “WAH COW!”
Upon noticing the red-coloured Mars, a British man spits out his tea and exclaims in a very strong accent, “Gee, I must say, WAH COW!”
A french artist was painting the Eiffel Tower with Mars beside it (the Mars painted on his canvas is yellow in colour). When he realized that Mars has now became red, he tore his painting in anguish while exclaiming in french, :"OH MON DIEU, LA PLANETE MARS SE TRANSFORME DE ROUGE EN JAUNE" while the subtitle appears: “WAH COW!”.
Bruce Lee swings his nun chucks around practicing while screaming “WA TAH! WA TAH!” He looks up to see that Mars has became red and exclaimes, “WAH COW!”
A Martian on Mars stands on Mars in shock. It looks at the (red) ground and paused for 3 seconds. Then it utters in an robotic-alienic voice, “WAH COW!”
The camera goes back to the scene of space (Mars is now red), while the narrator says “Cow had a dream, and the birth of his dream was the birth of a story that touched millions of lives. His story can now be found in a history book name “Fairytales”.... plus he caused Mars to turn red and pigs unable to fly AND... the cow never came home.”
Credits Roll. (Audience cheer and applause like mad) (a archapella groups starts singing "Wah Cow" over a beethoven tune)
The three little pigs wakes up to see the big bad wolf preparing to eat them. The pigs squeak to each other, with the subtitles appearing : “Stupid cow, eat our wings”
THE END
© 2007 Rickson Tan
So you've guessed it, it was because of cow that
1) Mars became red
2) Mars is now not visible to the naked eye from earth(coz when cow hit mars, it moved further away from earth)
3) We have the fairytale we now know as "The cow jumped over the moon"
4) Pigs were unable to fly
5) A cartoonist got inspired and decided to create the powerpuff girls
6) The phrases "if pigs can fly", "the cows never came home" and the all time favorite one that Singaporeans use, "WAH COW!" were created.
So thats all for today.
By the way, if you (or you know anyone) who is finding a good scriptwriter (both in comedy and other genres), please consider me, haha..
Wooooo~ my blog has advertisements too.
This post has some value in view of eternity. Because it stirs up laughter, which is good to the soul, and lessen stress so that people can continue doing their work with a smile.
It has great value in view of time too, because it can be used to make an short animation or even produce a movie from that story, which i strongly feel will be a great one, haha..
So thats all for today, Have A Nice Day!!
Anyway, today's blog will be a little different. I will expose my creative flair in storytelling to you guys. I'm gonna blog about a story which i came out with in one of my modules called concept pitch.
Enjoy!!
The story of a black cow
The story starts with a scene of the universe. The camera zooms in slowly on earth and you could see that Mars is yellow(yes, Mars is yellow, i'm the creator of the story and i call the shots, hah). Then, the Narrator speaks in an Elvis-tone voice: "If pigs can fly, what about cows?"
With great speed, the camera zooms into earth, whooshing past small meteorites and honey stars, until we reach the grassfields in New Zealand. There are many hills and mountains surrounding the grassfield where a million cows can be seen grazing it.
The camera pans to the right to show a cow walking up one of the hills in the foreground, away from the rest of the herd. The cow is black in colour with white patches instead. He takes a look back at the herd with disdain, and continues walking forward. After a few steps, cow stops at the top of the hill. His attention gets caught up by the majestic glow of the moon which outshines all the stars around it. [(you can see mars beside the moon (yes, you can see Mars with your naked eye in this story and it is still yellow)] Visions and destiny can be seen stirring up in his soul, through cow's eyes.
Suddenly, what seem like sparkles whizz past cow. Without hesitation cow turns its head to take a look. To his amazement, he sees 3 little fairy pigs flying to their little mushroom-camouflaged houses. The 3 little pigs have wings and each of them wore a skirt of a different colour; red, green & blue (like the powerpuffgirls). They happily enter their place of dwelling which happens to be mushroom-capped houses each made of different materials; straw, sticks & bricks.
Out of curiosity (a natural basic instinct of cows), cow motions himself closer to the mushroom houses. Another surge of curiosity stirs in him again (cows are really curious animals man). He ponders for awhile, then blows at the mushroom houses. His gentle breath becomes whirls of typhoons in the point of view of the little pigs with their little houses. The foundation of their houses instantaneously gave way without showing any hint struggle. What seems like a 20 feet vicious black giant is standing in front of the powerpuff pigs now.
Fear overcomes them as they cover their heads with their hands and go down on all fours with their wings sticking out. Suddenly, a growl can be heard... from cow's stomach. The pig's wings illusionizes into beautiful delicious grass blades in the eyes of cow. Without any thoughts of compassion, cow bites its' wings and swings the pigs away, causing their wings to snap. He continues to chew the wings while the pigs lay unconscious beside him.
Out of the sudden, cow's body begins to float. He takes a look at himself and sees sparkles surrounding his body, causing it to glow.Now it dawns in him that he has the power to fly like the powerpuff pigs. He looks up into the sky again, with passion burning in his eyes, like a small boy chancing upon a giant chocolate cookie ice-cream bubble-gum sweet (thats what i would like when i'm young). Cow bends down to gather strength in his legs, and takes a gigantic jump towards the moon. (background music: A symphonice band plays a piece that stirs up hope, faith and destiny) Whoosh, he disappears out of sight into space.
The introduction of Star Wars starts playing, with the classic Star wars sound track and the text “A long time ago in a galaxy far far away” starts rolling. “Whee!” cow flies past the words. Cow continues flying in space with glee shown all over his face. Meanwhile, more honey stars, cow carcasses in flying pose and Doraemon opening a wrong door into outer space can be seen in the background. Cow looks to his left and realizes that he has flew past the moon. A great sense of satisfaction fills his being, as if he had reached his destiny.
Then, he realized that his left hand is beginning to catch fire. Cow looks up, and to his horror, he is about to crash into Mars! He panics and tries hard to steer himself away but he could not. As he accelerates closer to Mars, cow panics more, with tears in his eyes now, he struggles hard to brake but to no avail. He is now just a few feet away from Mars, traveling at an amazing speed covered in a fireball. Now he looks like as if he saw a giant Godzilla-eating Lizard. [as in a giant lizard eating Godzilla (yes, cows are afraid of lizards in this story just as how elephants are afraid of mice)]
The camera zooms out to a bird eye view as cow slams into Mars with a loud “piak”. His blood sprays all over Mars causing Mars to turn red. An astrologer pulls away his telescope an exclaims, “WAH COW!”
A boy who coincidentally looks like me(the author) on the street points to the sky and exclaims, “WAH COW!” The people on the streets and in their houses notice that Mars is red in colour too and exclaim together in one voice, “WAH COW!”
Upon noticing the red-coloured Mars, a British man spits out his tea and exclaims in a very strong accent, “Gee, I must say, WAH COW!”
A french artist was painting the Eiffel Tower with Mars beside it (the Mars painted on his canvas is yellow in colour). When he realized that Mars has now became red, he tore his painting in anguish while exclaiming in french, :"OH MON DIEU, LA PLANETE MARS SE TRANSFORME DE ROUGE EN JAUNE" while the subtitle appears: “WAH COW!”.
Bruce Lee swings his nun chucks around practicing while screaming “WA TAH! WA TAH!” He looks up to see that Mars has became red and exclaimes, “WAH COW!”
A Martian on Mars stands on Mars in shock. It looks at the (red) ground and paused for 3 seconds. Then it utters in an robotic-alienic voice, “WAH COW!”
The camera goes back to the scene of space (Mars is now red), while the narrator says “Cow had a dream, and the birth of his dream was the birth of a story that touched millions of lives. His story can now be found in a history book name “Fairytales”.... plus he caused Mars to turn red and pigs unable to fly AND... the cow never came home.”
Credits Roll. (Audience cheer and applause like mad) (a archapella groups starts singing "Wah Cow" over a beethoven tune)
The three little pigs wakes up to see the big bad wolf preparing to eat them. The pigs squeak to each other, with the subtitles appearing : “Stupid cow, eat our wings”
THE END
© 2007 Rickson Tan
So you've guessed it, it was because of cow that
1) Mars became red
2) Mars is now not visible to the naked eye from earth(coz when cow hit mars, it moved further away from earth)
3) We have the fairytale we now know as "The cow jumped over the moon"
4) Pigs were unable to fly
5) A cartoonist got inspired and decided to create the powerpuff girls
6) The phrases "if pigs can fly", "the cows never came home" and the all time favorite one that Singaporeans use, "WAH COW!" were created.
So thats all for today.
By the way, if you (or you know anyone) who is finding a good scriptwriter (both in comedy and other genres), please consider me, haha..
Wooooo~ my blog has advertisements too.
This post has some value in view of eternity. Because it stirs up laughter, which is good to the soul, and lessen stress so that people can continue doing their work with a smile.
It has great value in view of time too, because it can be used to make an short animation or even produce a movie from that story, which i strongly feel will be a great one, haha..
So thats all for today, Have A Nice Day!!
Wednesday, 17 January 2007
Nice guys finish last..
If you are wondering "whats with your title Rick? Nice guys finish last?", it means that i managed to attract you into reading this post.
But, if you are not thining like that, then erm... maybe you're just sleepy lar.
Anyway, what does my title means? Its about platonic rleationships.
In case you do not know the meaning, Platonic relationship means relationships free from sensual desire, esp. in a relationship between two persons of the opposite sex. Many dictionaries do not have a clear explanation on it, so i shall rephrase it according to how Singaporeans see it in a simplier version.
Platonic relationship means best friends of the opposite sex who are not in love.
(wooo, Rickson's blog is so educational, haha)
I blog about this because I read an article about it 2 days ago in LIFE! newspaper. It was interesting and the writer managed to convince me that his opinions are facts. BUT, his 'facts' have certain loopholes and are not a 100% accurate.
Although this might seem as a worldy topic to many, it is really an important one.
So now, let me give you an interesting revised version on platonic relationships.
Oh wait... I can't find that newspaper article!!
I guess it was used to clean my dog's poo or the family of lizards we rented part of our house to ate it. Sometimes my homework disappears in the same way to. I wanted to tell my teachers the truth about not bringing my homework, that my dog pooped or pee-ed on my homework or the lizards ate it, but eventually i just told them i was stupid and lost it.. something like that..
Anyway, i shall just talk about what i can remember.
Platonic Relationships.. can they exist?
Those who think that platonic relationships can exist please raise your hand.
oOoh.. I see all the females raising their hands but only 50% of the males raising his hand.
Those who think that platonic relationships cannot exist please raise your hand.
oOoh, only 25% of the remaining raised up their hands. What happened to the rest?
Women strongly believe that platonic relationships can exist, many of them have had a close guy friend before. But what about men?? and boys??
Many men believe platonic relationships can exist too, while many of the boys (under 13) do not really know what is the defination of platonic relationships. I guess many of them haven't learn that word at their age yet.
BUT, the problem is that most platonic relationships don't work out for men.
Let me speak in a man's point of view now.
This post is to help women recieve new revelations, while helping men to vent their emotions out.
Here comes the shocking fact of the post....
Almost all men have had a crush on their best friend (man or woman) before!!
Shocking right? For the moment, i won't touch on the topic about men having crushes on their male best friend. Its a little too sensitive to people. A word of advice to all men out there: Becareful. haha..
Anyway, its true!!
But the main problem is that, the men who have crushes on their best friends do not want to tell them. They would rather have a a groups of lizards to bite their armpits then admit that they have a crush on their best friend. Yes i know, many of you women who are reading this now will be thinking who will ever want that kind of torture. Of course i'm excluding the fact that some women do have an obsession with lizards. Anyway, i shall move on. Yes, its really true!
I shall be brave and share with you some of my experiences.
I use to have this close female friend by the name of John (fake name, a female by the way, not a male, because i don't want to leak out who the person is). Anyway, i was John's best friend (still the same female person, not another male john). I had a crush on her before she had a boyfriend.
But months later, she chose to be with another guy. I was sad, boo-hoo, listened to sad songs everyday ( i was still very young then, it was like 6 years ago). The saddest thing was that, our relationship bear a huge ressemblance to a chinese love drama that was airing at that time called MYP qing2 ren3. Almost 50% of the story was the same as our relationship, it was very sad. But after awhile, i continued my friendship with her, because i did not want to appear as the sore-loser who gave up after losing etc, etc.
Our relationship then slowly became a platonic one; on the surface that is. She sees me as a best friend, confides in me her problems, struggles, and worst of all, her problems with that guy. It gave me lots of hope everytime they had a quarrel, but the worst part was her telling me "I wish he is like you, even abit can already, then i'll be much happier".
And the worster (new word) part is that, when i switch on the television, the main actress confides in her best friend about her boyfriend and says "i wish he is like you".
AND, the Worstest (newer word) part is that the main actress did not end up with her best friend at the end of the drama.. AAAAAHHHHHH!!!
So women, now you know what goes through the mind of a "best friend".
There were many many other instances (maybe 2 more), whereby i had crushes on my best friend (still females).
This is what i mean by "nice guys finish last". Because most of the time, those boyfriends torture our "best friends" emotionally, yet our "best friends" chose to stay with them.
Of course i should not stereotype platonic relationships like this. The good news is, it does not happen like this all the time. I've had many real platonic relationships before that do not involve any crush. So my close female friends out there, don't worry too much, haha. Through experience, i've managed to discipline myself and guard myself from falling into crushes, unless all along i really like this girl or what lar.
Anyway, crushes in platonic relationships happen more often than most women think they do.
In the article that i mentioned to you earlier, the journalist said that it happens all the time and thus platonic relationships does not exist to men.
Thats his point of view, but if i were to estimate, platonic best friends relationships only happen 30% of the time to men. Maybe 70% for women.
So for those people with platonic best friend relationships, keep watch. Maybe your best friend has a crush on you. Or maybe he/she/it doesn't. But if you only want a platonic relationship, then take precautions. Do not mislead them!!
But How?
1) Ensure minimal physical contact.
If it is true in the physical realm, it will be true in the spiritual realm. So if you do not have feelings for a person but still engage in alot of physical contact (tickling, "smacking each other", etc, etc), it will soon be true in the spiritual realm and soon you will lead the person into having feelings for you.
2) Watch what you say.
Avoid mushy stuff such as "Good nitez, sleep titez, Lollipop Dreamz!" even if it is your trademark good night message. "Lollipop dreamz" for good night is enough if you would like to have a trademark good night message. Don't overdo it, because by doing so, the other person will sub-consciously recieve it as "remember to dream of me!!" or something like that.
3) Watch how much time you are spending with him/her/it.
If you are spending more time with your "best friend" then your boyfriend/girlfriend/itfriend, then something might be wrong. Your "best friend" might draw up certain conclusions that will mislead him. For those who are not attached and are spending more time with your "best friend" than your homework, your grades must be pretty lousy. An average hardworking polytechnic/secondary student spends 20 hours on projects and studies. For JC it should be around 25 hours. So if you're spending more time with him/her/it than your homework, something must be wrong. So for those hardworking people, spend less time with your "best friend". For those lazy people, do your homework!!
And guys (some girls too, but mostly men).. Just be brave, confess it out. Even if your "best friend" does not feel the same towards you, you've let it out of your heart. Then from there, it is easier to decide to continue waiting or to give up, rather then holding on not not deciding on what to do.
Anyway, for those guys who lost hope and strongly believe that "Nice guys finish last", i've got good news for you!!
Why would your ex-best friend choose to stay with her current boyfriends who tortures her and forces her to eat lizards than to be with you; a nice and loving guy who would not even torture a lizard?
She must be BLIND!!! (not literally blind i mean, as in blind in seeing truths)
And do you want to have a BLIND girlfriend like that?
Certaintly not right, so rejoice!!!
It does pay off to be nice. The fact that you did not end up with her was a reward, not a punishment. (only applicable to those who have best friends who are tortured by their boyfriend but do not want to leave them)
For those of you guys who held a torch for your best friend who is a good person but do not feel the same for you, look on the bright side too. At least through this experience, you learn, grow stronger and build a better character. AND, a better character means becoming more attractive too, so rejoice too, haha..
So do not grow weary of doing good today.
This post have certain value in view of eternity and definitely lots of value in view of time (you don't wanna waste your time getting yourself into unwanted crushes)
But, if you are not thining like that, then erm... maybe you're just sleepy lar.
Anyway, what does my title means? Its about platonic rleationships.
In case you do not know the meaning, Platonic relationship means relationships free from sensual desire, esp. in a relationship between two persons of the opposite sex. Many dictionaries do not have a clear explanation on it, so i shall rephrase it according to how Singaporeans see it in a simplier version.
Platonic relationship means best friends of the opposite sex who are not in love.
(wooo, Rickson's blog is so educational, haha)
I blog about this because I read an article about it 2 days ago in LIFE! newspaper. It was interesting and the writer managed to convince me that his opinions are facts. BUT, his 'facts' have certain loopholes and are not a 100% accurate.
Although this might seem as a worldy topic to many, it is really an important one.
So now, let me give you an interesting revised version on platonic relationships.
Oh wait... I can't find that newspaper article!!
I guess it was used to clean my dog's poo or the family of lizards we rented part of our house to ate it. Sometimes my homework disappears in the same way to. I wanted to tell my teachers the truth about not bringing my homework, that my dog pooped or pee-ed on my homework or the lizards ate it, but eventually i just told them i was stupid and lost it.. something like that..
Anyway, i shall just talk about what i can remember.
Platonic Relationships.. can they exist?
Those who think that platonic relationships can exist please raise your hand.
oOoh.. I see all the females raising their hands but only 50% of the males raising his hand.
Those who think that platonic relationships cannot exist please raise your hand.
oOoh, only 25% of the remaining raised up their hands. What happened to the rest?
Women strongly believe that platonic relationships can exist, many of them have had a close guy friend before. But what about men?? and boys??
Many men believe platonic relationships can exist too, while many of the boys (under 13) do not really know what is the defination of platonic relationships. I guess many of them haven't learn that word at their age yet.
BUT, the problem is that most platonic relationships don't work out for men.
Let me speak in a man's point of view now.
This post is to help women recieve new revelations, while helping men to vent their emotions out.
Here comes the shocking fact of the post....
Almost all men have had a crush on their best friend (man or woman) before!!
Shocking right? For the moment, i won't touch on the topic about men having crushes on their male best friend. Its a little too sensitive to people. A word of advice to all men out there: Becareful. haha..
Anyway, its true!!
But the main problem is that, the men who have crushes on their best friends do not want to tell them. They would rather have a a groups of lizards to bite their armpits then admit that they have a crush on their best friend. Yes i know, many of you women who are reading this now will be thinking who will ever want that kind of torture. Of course i'm excluding the fact that some women do have an obsession with lizards. Anyway, i shall move on. Yes, its really true!
I shall be brave and share with you some of my experiences.
I use to have this close female friend by the name of John (fake name, a female by the way, not a male, because i don't want to leak out who the person is). Anyway, i was John's best friend (still the same female person, not another male john). I had a crush on her before she had a boyfriend.
But months later, she chose to be with another guy. I was sad, boo-hoo, listened to sad songs everyday ( i was still very young then, it was like 6 years ago). The saddest thing was that, our relationship bear a huge ressemblance to a chinese love drama that was airing at that time called MYP qing2 ren3. Almost 50% of the story was the same as our relationship, it was very sad. But after awhile, i continued my friendship with her, because i did not want to appear as the sore-loser who gave up after losing etc, etc.
Our relationship then slowly became a platonic one; on the surface that is. She sees me as a best friend, confides in me her problems, struggles, and worst of all, her problems with that guy. It gave me lots of hope everytime they had a quarrel, but the worst part was her telling me "I wish he is like you, even abit can already, then i'll be much happier".
And the worster (new word) part is that, when i switch on the television, the main actress confides in her best friend about her boyfriend and says "i wish he is like you".
AND, the Worstest (newer word) part is that the main actress did not end up with her best friend at the end of the drama.. AAAAAHHHHHH!!!
So women, now you know what goes through the mind of a "best friend".
There were many many other instances (maybe 2 more), whereby i had crushes on my best friend (still females).
This is what i mean by "nice guys finish last". Because most of the time, those boyfriends torture our "best friends" emotionally, yet our "best friends" chose to stay with them.
Of course i should not stereotype platonic relationships like this. The good news is, it does not happen like this all the time. I've had many real platonic relationships before that do not involve any crush. So my close female friends out there, don't worry too much, haha. Through experience, i've managed to discipline myself and guard myself from falling into crushes, unless all along i really like this girl or what lar.
Anyway, crushes in platonic relationships happen more often than most women think they do.
In the article that i mentioned to you earlier, the journalist said that it happens all the time and thus platonic relationships does not exist to men.
Thats his point of view, but if i were to estimate, platonic best friends relationships only happen 30% of the time to men. Maybe 70% for women.
So for those people with platonic best friend relationships, keep watch. Maybe your best friend has a crush on you. Or maybe he/she/it doesn't. But if you only want a platonic relationship, then take precautions. Do not mislead them!!
But How?
1) Ensure minimal physical contact.
If it is true in the physical realm, it will be true in the spiritual realm. So if you do not have feelings for a person but still engage in alot of physical contact (tickling, "smacking each other", etc, etc), it will soon be true in the spiritual realm and soon you will lead the person into having feelings for you.
2) Watch what you say.
Avoid mushy stuff such as "Good nitez, sleep titez, Lollipop Dreamz!" even if it is your trademark good night message. "Lollipop dreamz" for good night is enough if you would like to have a trademark good night message. Don't overdo it, because by doing so, the other person will sub-consciously recieve it as "remember to dream of me!!" or something like that.
3) Watch how much time you are spending with him/her/it.
If you are spending more time with your "best friend" then your boyfriend/girlfriend/itfriend, then something might be wrong. Your "best friend" might draw up certain conclusions that will mislead him. For those who are not attached and are spending more time with your "best friend" than your homework, your grades must be pretty lousy. An average hardworking polytechnic/secondary student spends 20 hours on projects and studies. For JC it should be around 25 hours. So if you're spending more time with him/her/it than your homework, something must be wrong. So for those hardworking people, spend less time with your "best friend". For those lazy people, do your homework!!
And guys (some girls too, but mostly men).. Just be brave, confess it out. Even if your "best friend" does not feel the same towards you, you've let it out of your heart. Then from there, it is easier to decide to continue waiting or to give up, rather then holding on not not deciding on what to do.
Anyway, for those guys who lost hope and strongly believe that "Nice guys finish last", i've got good news for you!!
Why would your ex-best friend choose to stay with her current boyfriends who tortures her and forces her to eat lizards than to be with you; a nice and loving guy who would not even torture a lizard?
She must be BLIND!!! (not literally blind i mean, as in blind in seeing truths)
And do you want to have a BLIND girlfriend like that?
Certaintly not right, so rejoice!!!
It does pay off to be nice. The fact that you did not end up with her was a reward, not a punishment. (only applicable to those who have best friends who are tortured by their boyfriend but do not want to leave them)
For those of you guys who held a torch for your best friend who is a good person but do not feel the same for you, look on the bright side too. At least through this experience, you learn, grow stronger and build a better character. AND, a better character means becoming more attractive too, so rejoice too, haha..
So do not grow weary of doing good today.
This post have certain value in view of eternity and definitely lots of value in view of time (you don't wanna waste your time getting yourself into unwanted crushes)
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